INTP vs. INFP
Originally Posted by nightowl
Thank you, Auburn, for the link.
Based on some testing and studying the different types, decided that INFP was the best one for me. Was really surprised when I took that test from your link and Ti, Ni, Te, and Fi were all scored essentially the same with just a point or two between them followed closely by Ne and Fe.
Now I consider myself an INFP with an extremely high Ti although INxP would also be work. Those of you who are also quite comfortable with T/F, what stressors "block" your thought and decision processes and steer you towards F or T? Could that help determine you to finally decide INTP or INTF or are you comfortable with the INxP classification?
The reason "INFP with an extremely high Ti" works best for me, I think, is because when I am forced to interact with negative and highly negative energy people, all that negative energy literally overwhelms me and makes accessing my Ti much more difficult. That, and the weighing against my personal values. It is only with age and experience that I am learning how to handle these situations and people...the natural detachment you INTP's seem to have.
T and F arguing in my head is also a tremendous stressor when making decisions in conflicting situations; sometimes, it's like a war in there.
Feedback, please. Still studying and learning about MBTI.
Detachment is not QUITE as natural as it might seem. Inferior functions (for the INTP, Fe) occupy a nebulous space in the hierarchy as the only function that is predominately unconscious, but still has the capacity to operate on a conscious level. That's why when you engage in said function it often comes across as immature or naive. The function is almost literally half asleep.
Why does that matter? Any INTP who has been in a committed relationship (especially if it involved a shared residence) is familiar with a problem that happens when the other person becomes emotionally upset. We feel terrible. Its not sympathy, its empathy. We feel what they feel. How do we stop ourselves from doing that? That's right, detachment. Because we don't rely on our Fe to help us run our daily lives, we stuff it in the closet and only let it out on accident or when we really need it. From my experience, most INTPs believe at one point or another that they are INFPs. This includes me. The reason is that an INTPs emotional side is strong, but often hidden. We sense it in ourselves but do not see it in those in which feel are, otherwise, most similar (i.e. the other members of this forum). Accepting that a strong emotional side is part and parcel with being an INTP and much of the confusion goes away. What remains is obviously for you to decide, but I'll try to help how I can.
I'm going to have to think about the INFP side a bit more because it doesn't come as intuitively. I'll write out my advice for an INTP below and can I get back to you for the INFP perspective?
What you have to remember is that Ti IS a J trait. The fact that you're a intP only means that your primary extraverted trait is a perceiving one. Ti has a tendency to mull things over almost indefinitely, but once its made up its mind, its VERY difficult to change it. Picture it like the last puzzle piece. It may take all day, but once it drops into place, just try to dig it out without tearing up half the puzzle in the process. What you're experiencing is your dominant Ti making a decision and then delegating to your other functions, which is why it feels uncomfortable. Through reflection you can re-engage your Ti to continue to look at the problem, but unless you do, it can be hard to change course.
Te has a similar appearance, but a different motivation. It demands that the outside world come to some kind of order (as opposed to an INTPs demand that their internal world is organized). They both demand order and sometimes your internal order is going to have to impose itself on the outside world. Hence the problem.
What I believe is more likely is that your inferior function, Fe, is imposing itself now that Ti is no longer dominating the landscape. Do you recognize emotional content in your J-like behavior or does it feel like callous delegation? Do you recognize the offense you might cause during or after (even if you're unable to wholly stop yourself)? If during, then do you think that level of "other awareness" is greater than you generally exhibit?
This could be the wrong tact to take on the problem, but let me know if this is helpful.