how to deal with those really annoying extreme extraverts as an INTP?
Use your Ne to spurt out all your knowledge plus new ideas built upon it spontaneously on the spot and dominate them by your knowledge, they'll be quiet and listen. Make it an interesting story though, as if you are seducing a girl with it (even for guys), extraverted feelers love that. Just have a trip on your Ne, as long as your underlying why's are rocksolid you can spurt it all out on the spot.
But to get the underlying why's right, you need private time.
I actually have a secret private UFO with luxury facilities, a spa and unlimited food
, but if you can't find one then just rent a nice secret extra apartment or secret private office and retreat there to ponder about life or work on your private projects, turn cell phone on silent and just tell the bastards that you have a job. Now you can work in peace. Just come to your public home in weekend/evenings and pretend to be tired of work, they will understand that, or just come to your public home with full energy and be extraverted for the evening/weekend, also good for your balance. I actually just run all my new ideas on them, and if they can't stand it swap them for another one. Ehmm that is a bit harsh maybe: So don't do too much of that and think of them a bit too and care for them (as long as they do spend time on you too: dont be a bastard to non-bastards, but to bastards you may be a bastard as well)
Conclusion: You can have a normal life
just don''t show them how you ponder, they think its like doing nothing and they cannot respect somebody that does nothing. if they think you do nothing, they think they are wiser (which they are not). so do your pondering somewhere else, where they cant see you and tell them you have been very busy when you get back. with all the new ideas you come back with, they'll actually believe you.
Go faster than the extravert when you are around them, if you can't : get out of their sight... they will remember you as fast only and thus they will respect you and thus not bother you with unimportant matters, and this is what you want