How do you do it?
I don't really think you can, to be honest. I think being influenced is wholly unconscious, and the closest one can get to "choosing" their influencers is pursuing something that they're already unconsciously interested in, which leads to more stimulation in that direction.
I think we should define or section off "influence." I mean, even if one chooses their influencers, they're still being influenced by what influenced their influencers.Yeah but this applies to all choices.
I think you select your influences consciously when you read about or in other ways seek out information about people whose work you want to read before you do so basically. It probably comes more natural to J types, INTJ's do this a lot (in my experience), and INFJ's do it quite a lot as well.
How do you do it?
Yeah but this applies to all choices.
I think you select your influences consciously when you read about or in other ways seek out information about people whose work you want to read before you do so basically. It probably comes more natural to J types, INTJ's do this a lot (in my experience), and INFJ's do it quite a lot as well.
I deliberately forgo influence in order to maintain a sense of achievement when I work something out on my own. Once I feel I have a good sense of something, then I'm more than happy to read up on it and check my comprehension.
You are still under old influences. You are only forgoing new ones.
You are assuming some large impact of the social environment, and yes, it plays a role. However, nature and nurture are a complex interaction, and making broad-stroke claims about influences for people you know little of is likely ill-advised.
Consider your last statement, where you referring to social or academic achievements?
Err... sorry I'm not good at this time in the morning... Achievements?
I was referring to influences in general. I didn't read anything academic before reaching my current state of initially rejecting influence.
Sometimes I might make the conscious decision not to bother taking the things someone else says too seriously - if they regularly lie and deceive, or have a habit of framing things in such a way that makes them look right, rather than actually demonstrating why they're right. I'd consider this a choice, it being the conscious decision to take things with a grain of salt.
Grayman...
Are you trying to be redundant or am I missing something here?
I mean this inoffensively, it's just confusing me because you seem to be pointing out the obvious and rephrasing things people say, only to end up making the same points and reaching the same conclusions.
It was purposeful. I told you my view. Where my view matches yours means we are in agreement. You can now understand where we stand together. At the end and the beginning I told you how 'I feel' my view differs from yours. You can now tell me if it does and if it does not and why.
Okay so it's deliberate.
You can choose the people who can influence you. You can stay away from bad people and be with good people. You avoid people who have bad habit like smoking, drinking alcohol without solving their problem, doing crime, etc. Good influence are your friends. They teach you on how to do things. They advice you on your problems. They influence you on their good habit. Joining socialization, doing charitable actions, those are good influence. Helping people. You can also be a good influence to others. Practice what you like to do. Those that are helpful, advantageous, and useful. And preach others to do the good things that you also do. Good behavior can be controlled. If you want good attitude, be in the circle of good friends.