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I have a friend who is a history buff and, during casual conversation, can explain historical facts in detail. For example, when I was planning a trip to Hungary, and asked him what it's like there, he explained the history of the Austro Hungarian Empire, its collapse, and how that affects the...

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Hi everyone, it is has been a long time since I've been on this forum. I started to miss you all! There aren't many other places with this level of quality conversation. So I'm back :) I have noticed that when I notice another person being inconsistent in their beliefs, it bothers me a lot...

Edited for clarity. Gaslighting is harmful because it erodes the victim's trust in their thoughts, feelings, perception, and judgment (internal experience). It creates self-doubt, in the form of an internal voice that keeps rationalizing other peoples' behavior. This leads the victim to keep...

Many people say that if one is feeling sad or any such negative emotion, you should accept the emotion, allow yourself to feel it, and do something that makes you happy as a way of self-care. I know people who do this. If they are feeling depressed, they don't fight it, they just let it be, and...

I want a pen pal to exchange emails with in a foreign language (to practice and learn). I can speak on a conversational level, I just need to keep exercising it so that I don't lose touch, and to improve my vocab/grammar. My languages of choice: French or English So basically, if anyone...

I spend a lot of time working on theories in my head, without writing anything down. Then, I look back and feel bad that after all that time, I have nothing to show for it. At least if I wrote a paper, I could have done something with it. Published it, sent it somewhere, or even used it as a...

I find that in situations where one belongs to a non-mainstream subculture, it is difficult to find a group of friends who shares one's interests. Please see the spoiler for my definition of subculture. To illustrate what I mean, I will use hip-hop culture as an example. This is not my...

I've been feeling like I spend way too much time thinking, and not enough time living. Thinking eats a ton of my time. It sounds crazy but sometimes I think about something for two hours straight without realizing. It feels like just a few minutes had passed. All the time I spend thinking...

Our values, the meaning we give to things in life, do not exist in objective reality. They are created by us and we assign them to things. Since they only exist in our minds, they are not "objectively" correct or incorrect. Each person might have a different value/meaning and each person's...

I was talking to someone about the trolley problem, and they have a very strange view. I would like to know what you think about it. They would pull the lever to kill one rather than five. But, they would not push the fat man. Their reasoning is as follows: Not pulling the lever and...

People ask why I don't get along with INTJs, so this is a place for me to collect my experiences (and those of others). This isn't limited to negative things, I'll put good things too if I come across them. Okay first one: I had a ridiculous debate with an INTJ the other night about morality...

We have come a long way in my last thread, and this is the last piece of the puzzle. I created a new thread because it is a different issue, it is very specific, and I want to keep this streamlined. The specific issue to be discussed in this thread is the timing of intent. Please keep...

Some people think of birthdays as a day to have fun and party, some people think of them as a regular old day. I'm of the type for whom birthdays are very meaningful. I see them as a day to feel special and loved and cared for. & that is why it is very depressing that I have no friends. I'm...

There is a situation where I have a gut feeling that it is morally wrong, but I cannot explain why it is wrong. It basically feels like a person is using another person/taking advantage of them. But I cannot explain the difference between using someone, and changing your mind about someone...

When someone says something that can be interpreted as contradictory or inconsistent, I latch on to that even if there are plausible ways to interpret what they said as non-contradictory. For example, they could have meant A, B, or C. C would be contradictory, but A and B would be consistent. It...

Situation: Bob wrongs Sally by doing x. Sally gets mad and hates Bob for x. Then, Sally wrongs Bob by doing y. Bob gives Sally reparations for x, to make up for damage he caused. But Sally refuses to apologize for y. Dilemma: Bob is offended by y and wants to stand up for himself. BUT at the...

I noticed that when I read books, I hate extensive physical descriptions, but I don't mind descriptions of feelings/emotional states. I realized maybe it's because I'm not an Se. Different functions probably enjoy reading about certain things/in certain styles. If we could put together a...

The attractiveness rating system is a system of rating people based on looks from 1-10. DISCLAIMER: do not take this as an attack on anyone who uses this system, and get defensive about it. I am just trying to understand what it did to ME. I am a female, and never knew about or used such...

Can anyone relate to this and maybe explain why this happens: I don't have that many tangible goals, instead I have these fantasy-visions of what I want to experience. (It's all based on experience, and not on accomplishing anything really). For example, there was a time in my life when I...

I tend to get running thoughts, but noticed that whenever I sit in the sun, my thoughts automatically slow down. I stop getting running thoughts and can think about one thing at a time. In fact, I get into this mindfulness state where my brain is totally in control and focused. Any ideas on...

Someone did something to me. It cannot be undone, and it has permanently affected my life in a very drastic way (to the point where I feel like my life is ruined). I've accepted it and am trying to move forward, but as I face the hardship that follows I think to myself "this is his fault". If...