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Blake Belladonna
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Generally everyone has a view of what the female gender is. That they have created in their mind a representative and archetype of what a female is.
I have been exposed to many female frames of reference in my life and this tells me how the gender is in my mind. This is not opposed to the male gender, it is more about emotionally not being the same. This has nothing to do with gender roles.
Personality as how one carries one's self and has an orientation to the world is part of what makes the feminine. To me the female has a greater empathy. Knowing what a person is like deep down inside. Being feminine is highly internal. If a problem happens it is the consideration of others that is first thought of. Thoughtfulness. Which has allot to do with understanding the others perspective. It's not just fixing things but knowing the other person.
When male characters care it's more about treating people as with positions of power. You teach a child to be strong and do what they need to do based on the ability they have. And it's to increase power. In my view of the feminine caring is more about being ok. That when you treat children you treat them as vulnerable. From infancy not just a full individual that can make their own decisions but as a somewhat a creature that has different needs. Learning to walk and talk and being completely dependant. That is what the female archetype is supposed to be I feel.
You don't handle baby the same way you handle a 9 year old. Baby cannot fight back or wrestle. So the thing is that baby needs the mother more than the father in the earliest years. I believe evolution made females able to have empathy twords baby. My dogs, I had one male and one female. The female treated everything as a baby. The male dog just wants to rough play. That is how I see the difference. Girls early in life ages 5-7 want to hold thing gently not thrash them about. Babies would die if the mother did not have all the focus of knowing what it needs.
I feel very attached to my animals and see them as babies not things you play with tough. I hold them and want them to love me. I think this affects the psychological of a person. That they don't always have to be independent so much. When out in natural environments a tendency exists to stay in one location or travel vast distances. With a baby you can't travel much. This then makes you observe things not the same. You have an internal view and a local decision process (Not always deciding where to go in the moment) and social interaction between people become more important as talking about people not actions or things.
In my life I often had lots of empathy for the cartoon characters on tv. I'd cry that they get hurt or were lonely and want them to find friends. That I also be sad because I understood what the story was about. That it's always a drama. I could not understand that it wasn't real being to young so I had what is called para social relationships with them and people in picture books. They were my friends and I cared about them. Yet they were not real so all I had were the stories about them. Not all good. But I felt for them and this kept with me into adulthood.
It is important to know that love helps people and that is what I get from the feeling of what the female is. Not power. Tho power can be attractive it's what being around others helps you that strong people exist but It's not exactly what caring is softer.
It's being older that I see people as they act masculine or feminine that I wondered how people see me. I don't feel much power in things but I do feel love taking care of small creatures. That's the difference I know others have seen in me.
I have been exposed to many female frames of reference in my life and this tells me how the gender is in my mind. This is not opposed to the male gender, it is more about emotionally not being the same. This has nothing to do with gender roles.
Personality as how one carries one's self and has an orientation to the world is part of what makes the feminine. To me the female has a greater empathy. Knowing what a person is like deep down inside. Being feminine is highly internal. If a problem happens it is the consideration of others that is first thought of. Thoughtfulness. Which has allot to do with understanding the others perspective. It's not just fixing things but knowing the other person.
When male characters care it's more about treating people as with positions of power. You teach a child to be strong and do what they need to do based on the ability they have. And it's to increase power. In my view of the feminine caring is more about being ok. That when you treat children you treat them as vulnerable. From infancy not just a full individual that can make their own decisions but as a somewhat a creature that has different needs. Learning to walk and talk and being completely dependant. That is what the female archetype is supposed to be I feel.
You don't handle baby the same way you handle a 9 year old. Baby cannot fight back or wrestle. So the thing is that baby needs the mother more than the father in the earliest years. I believe evolution made females able to have empathy twords baby. My dogs, I had one male and one female. The female treated everything as a baby. The male dog just wants to rough play. That is how I see the difference. Girls early in life ages 5-7 want to hold thing gently not thrash them about. Babies would die if the mother did not have all the focus of knowing what it needs.
I feel very attached to my animals and see them as babies not things you play with tough. I hold them and want them to love me. I think this affects the psychological of a person. That they don't always have to be independent so much. When out in natural environments a tendency exists to stay in one location or travel vast distances. With a baby you can't travel much. This then makes you observe things not the same. You have an internal view and a local decision process (Not always deciding where to go in the moment) and social interaction between people become more important as talking about people not actions or things.
In my life I often had lots of empathy for the cartoon characters on tv. I'd cry that they get hurt or were lonely and want them to find friends. That I also be sad because I understood what the story was about. That it's always a drama. I could not understand that it wasn't real being to young so I had what is called para social relationships with them and people in picture books. They were my friends and I cared about them. Yet they were not real so all I had were the stories about them. Not all good. But I felt for them and this kept with me into adulthood.
It is important to know that love helps people and that is what I get from the feeling of what the female is. Not power. Tho power can be attractive it's what being around others helps you that strong people exist but It's not exactly what caring is softer.
It's being older that I see people as they act masculine or feminine that I wondered how people see me. I don't feel much power in things but I do feel love taking care of small creatures. That's the difference I know others have seen in me.