INTP and INFP

[Staywhatyouare]

You know, something about this really struck me… Why is it that you need to read her so carefully? Isn’t that really a sign of focused, intended seduction? Rather, it’s definitely a sign you are under some kind of pressure - that you want to drive things towards an end…

Is it only the hope of a relationship keeping you interested in this? Supposing you were to find she was rather unattractive, would you still be interested in connecting with her so? It sounds like you, for certain, have a very interesting and stimulating connection with her…
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Hmm. Everything you said in that first paragraph is true to an extent...but I feel like the way in which you worded it gives it a negative connotation. I met a girl I was interested in, decide to give it a shot and after starting to get to know her well decided she would be the type of girl I would enjoy being in a relationship with. Is that a bad thing?

I think if she weren't as attractive( which isn't the case...i think she's ridiculously attractive in a very unique way), I would still be interested in a friendship, but I think that's sort of irrelevant since I happen to find her very attractive...

I'm a little confused as to what exactly you're getting at with your post...but I appreciate your interest in the situation, do you think you could elaborate?

Edit: And as for the reason why I feel the need to read her...isn't it kind of natural to want to know how someone you have feelings for feels about you?

 

[Sapphire Harp]

Hmm. Everything you said in that first paragraph is true to an extent...but I feel like the way in which you worded it gives it a negative connotation. I met a girl I was interested in, decide to give it a shot and after starting to get to know her well decided she would be the type of girl I would enjoy being in a relationship with. Is that a bad thing?

Hmm… I suppose I gave you the least-flattering interpretation of what could be extrapolated there… It’s really up to you to sort out how much the ‘lust-driven guy’ aspect really applies. It’s all in quantities of what you’re feeling, which I don’t think I saw any clear distinctions so far. If I’m giving you an ill-fitting example, you can use it to find out what you’re not doing…

It does sound like you’re living under a lot of pressure to hurry things, though. The only person I can think is applying that is yourself.
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And as for the reason why I feel the need to read her...isn't it kind of natural to want to know how someone you have feelings for feels about you?

Sure, but you’re talking about it with a lot of importance… like you need to know now. To put it frankly, the tension makes it sound like you’re hoping to find yourself in bed with her almost as soon as you meet her. Perfectly natural, almost required to be hoping for that… but bringing patience and perspective across the situation is definitely something to consider…

Either together as friends or together as a couple… both are fine things. Not being privy to your conscious, the insistence looks like you’re playing the classic who only cared for one of those options. Only you get to know if it’s a mirror or a caricature I’m showing you.

You say it’s not, so that’s cool. So… what’s up with the pressure then? It seems to me like you can chill out and enjoy the walk in the woods - there needn’t be any hurry to figure out what path you’re on.
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