INTP confusion

[IwasAteenageINTP]

Hello
I need a bit of advice/clarification about a situation I'm having trouble with.
I have been friends with an INTJ, ENFJ, and an ISFJ for at least two years so I know then reasonably well. After getting a car and learning how to drive the ENFJ has become controlling and emotionally abusive. Sensing something was off I distanced myself so that I wouldn't have to deal with her. The ISFJ and INTJ have remained however as they are both prone to ignoring inter-relational conflict. The ISFJ lives near a river in Egypt and the INTJ claims to not know how to deal with the situation and as such does nothing. The ENFJ has expressed a desire to turn us into her personal "cult" and I am concerned.
Thoughts?

 

[DrGregoryHouse]

LOL WTF post of the week

the best part is that bit about living near a river in Egypt

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

My first thought is that there's not enough information given in order for me to provide valid thoughts. Can you give any more detail? About yourself or any/all of them?

 

[IwasAteenageINTP]

What would you like to know? And the river in Egypt was a reference to that denial joke

 

[IwasAteenageINTP]

The car is significant because she's the only one of us that can drive and she'll take us out for lunch/free period(we're all in high school)

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

What would you like to know? And the river in Egypt was a reference to that denial joke

Anything. And now that I get the joke...

It appears the ENFJ wants to run your lives. If you agree with her goals, do it, at least until the point at which you no longer agree. If not, don't. The others will so the same, which is all because of this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agency_(philosophy)

 

[IwasAteenageINTP]

The ENFJ has always wanted to "control" the group do to some issues of her own particularly her fear of abandonment. She once expressed a desire to become "one" with me, whatever THAT means *shudder* It was disturbing...

 

[IwasAteenageINTP]

She's unhealthy though, she's not doing it to "help" us as she claimed or if she is she has a funny way of doing it: she lies, contradicts herself, looks down at all of us, and when anyone says anything she gets all high and mighty

 

[Grayman]

Hello
I need a bit of advice/clarification about a situation I'm having trouble with.
I have been friends with an INTJ, ENFJ, and an ISFJ for at least two years so I know then reasonably well. After getting a car and learning how to drive the ENFJ has become controlling and emotionally abusive. Sensing something was off I distanced myself so that I wouldn't have to deal with her. The ISFJ and INTJ have remained however as they are both prone to ignoring inter-relational conflict. The ISFJ lives near a river in Egypt and the INTJ claims to not know how to deal with the situation and as such does nothing. The ENFJ has expressed a desire to turn us into her personal "cult" and I am concerned.
Thoughts?

A cult would at least be interesting, this just sounds painful. Have you talked to the ENFJ?

She may be feeling used.

 

[IwasAteenageINTP]

That was the first thing I tried(we've had various problems, with her at the center of all of them) before she was just happy to be the cause of all the problems now she gets furious when we don't take her side(regardless of if anyone else has a point). She can't be trusted to tell the truth, she lied too many times to deserve that

 

[IwasAteenageINTP]

I believe she may be attempting to gaslight us