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- Jun 7, 2017
I quite disagree, @Hadoblado. To begin with, none of those three points need to be satisfied in order to make use of MBTI.MBTI is fun and all but don't use it to inform anything that matters.
Your own sense of what works for you is going to fit your specific case more than this set of trends. And that's assuming its veracity in the first place, which is far from beyond question.
So basically, in order for typology to help you:
1) MBTI has to be a good model. I don't think it is but since you're here you probably do?
2) You need to have correctly assessed her type, which, given the degree of disagreement even among MBTI experts, is unlikely at best.
3) The trends level predictions of MBTI need to better fit the scenario than the stuff you are able to observe from the first person. Individual people are insanely difficult to predict with any degree of accuracy from abstract models (ask any economist or social scientist).
Maybe take into account her extroversion and smarts. That seems like a certainty. Try to not leave her understimulated from your interactions. Beyond that? I'd just trust yourself. Having a common interest is in your favour. So is being the head of the group. While I wouldn't overtly leverage such things, they suggest you have at least a chance?
1) MBTI is not really a model but a taxonomy of behavioral traits
2) You don't need to do that unless you really believe there is such a thing as discrete types that each person is locked into. All you need to assume is that a person's behavioral traits are fairly stable within a certain time span.
3) Information you gain using MBTI and information you observe from a subjective perspective don't need to be mutually exclusive. And neither of these need to be used to "predict" people – you only need to understand them better.
I think MBTI can be useful in a scenario like this, because it gives you set of traits to look for in an objective way. I guess that's especially useful when the guy has a crush and is completely blinded by subjective judgments of her.
I've personally had some interesting results using MBTI with women. I recall this one ESFJ on whom I dropped a bunch of out-of-the-box ESFJ descriptions, saying "you probably want this and that, you probably feel this and that etc". Later she said that I was the only person who "really understood her".
So I guess my suggestion to OP is – just read a basic ENTP profile and start with that.