Not really similar, other than having enough similarity and difference to make a good romantic pairing. Many obvious differences, outward judging (INFJ) versus inward judging (INTP), dominant Feeler (INFJ) versus dominant Thinker (INTP). INFJ's take up social causes which INTP's rarely care anything about. INTP's care about correct theories and 'right living' that INFJ's take for granted. INFJ's are hyper sensitive to anything that might appear to be a criticism. INTP's tend to see everything as improvable, but don't try it on an INFJ, they'll blow up.
I mean they're different enough that it's more useful to look at where they align I think. First is introversion and intuition, that meshes. They both tend to like cultural activities (concerts, museums and such), though the INFJ more so. Neither are joiners (of groups, clubs, etc). Both enjoy talking and analyzing current events, science, the arts and such. Both like having sex with each other. INFJ's tend to obsess about the INTP type, and INTP's bask in the focus that INFJ's have for them. Both struggle with living in the S dominant world. That about covers it.