ello!

[Mandy]

What is your name?

Mandy

Where are you from?

Pennsylvania, US

How old are you?

28

What's your gender?

Female

How did you find out that you were INTP, or other type?

I've always tested INTJ (very low J). After joining some INTJ and INTP groups I started to suspect I might be INTP instead. I looked into the cognitive functions and took more tests which confirmed my suspicions.

How did you find out about this forum?

Googling "INTP forums" lol.

Do you have a partner/lover?

Yep, he's INFP.

Do you have any kids?

A super awesome three year old.

Do you have any pets?

A cat named Kitty who's a bastard and knocks all of my drinks over, climbs into my cabinets to steal my tampons and spreads them all over the house. Then my kid brings them to me like they're trophies. Fun times

Hmm, other than that I will eat all of the pizza. I love star gazing. I probably drink too much booze and play too many video games. Also, I thoroughly enjoy this green ball head riding on an elephant

 

[Cheeseumpuffs]

Hiya!

 

[Sir Eus Lee]

Is it a weird aspect that he's a feeler (INFP) and you're a thinker (INTP), which is against stereotypes?

...any stories about that...?

(I'm not trying to be rude if this could possibly come off that way, I'm just curious.)

Oh, and welcome!

 

[Mandy]

Is it a weird aspect that he's a feeler (INFP) and you're a thinker (INTP), which is against stereotypes?

...any stories about that...?

(I'm not trying to be rude if this could possibly come off that way, I'm just curious.)

Oh, and welcome!

Not rude at all! We've had our fair share of difficult times. He would get upset that I was not affectionate/emotional enough. I would get annoyed when he wouldn't allow me space to read/think/be alone. Or I'd want to tell him something really cool that I learned and he'd pretend to listen but really be in outer space somewhere. I'd long for intellectual conversations and he'd long for a lover.

It may seem silly but MBTI had a hand in saving our relationship. One night, I asked him to take the test and read about our types. It was the first time we actually talked in weeks. Things clicked. We understood each other better which made it a hell of a lot easier to avoid conflict.

One example: The other day I was off from work, and asked my mom to babysit for a few hours. I was laying in my glorious bed with my laptop when I heard my boyfriend come home early from work. I'll admit, I was annoyed instead of happy. He came in, jumped on me, happy as hell to be home and to see me. I said hello, hugged him back and he knew it was "Mand needs space time" and said "I'm going to go play the drums, come find me when you're done reading, I love you!" He was still genuinely happy and rather than annoyed, I felt grateful to have such an understanding partner. A few years ago, there would have been a huge fight.

Yes, there are still times where I wish I didn't have to repeat his name 100 times to get his attention and make sure he's "there." (and I know sometimes he wishes I was more loving) But he is quite intelligent and I admire his musical abilities. It also helps that we have mostly the same interests and hobbies.

Whoops, I'm babbling. But feel free to ask anything else!

 

[Sir Eus Lee]

It's your post, you have exclusive rights to babble. Why else would we be on this forum than to hear your babbling? Or any body's babbling for that matter?

Although you may have different first functions, how do both of your Ne and Si sync up?

How was it to integrate a child?

Favorite video game?

 

[Jennywocky]

Welcome -- kids and cats and all other things fun? Yes, it can all be a trip.

I grew up in PA (southern central) and lived in central PA (harrisburg) for a number of years until I moved to MD a few years back. Are you near one of the major cities or in Pennsyltucky region?

My other kids, not as much, but my INTP son and I used to go watch stars when we'd go camping. One of the bad things about being in a city now is that the ambient light makes it harder to see things; where I grew up in the country, the nights were dark and I could see much more.

I'm glad you guys ran across MBTI and learned of the basic differences -- so it no longer is "my partner is rejecting me and/or being a jerk" but just "we're different, and so we can accommodate each other." When I was married, that knowledge helped me a lot too to work through some of the issues we were having. it's easier to capitalize on each other's strengths rather than getting upset all the time over feeling like your partner is withholding something.

I had a similar issue with the INFP I was dating for awhile... I was colder than he liked, and I felt judged sometimes. The mindmate/soulmate thing is a decent description; I do want a soulmate too, but I need to have someone I can share ideas with / can talk to for decent lengths of time. I wish that relationship had worked out.

Is it a weird aspect that he's a feeler (INFP) and you're a thinker (INTP), which is against stereotypes?

probably more common than you realize. if the two aren't extreme in their Ji function, they end up enjoying each other through Ne. One of my most serious relationships was with an INFP, and I have some close INFP friends... if they just can detach from strong values a bit and like to play around, it can create a reciprocal, low-key relationship.

 

[Mandy]

It's your post, you have exclusive rights to babble. Why else would we be on this forum than to hear your babbling? Or any body's babbling for that matter?

Although you may have different first functions, how do both of your Ne and Si sync up?

How was it to integrate a child?

Favorite video game?

Touche. I'll admit I have not looked into the functions much. Just compared the INTJ & INTP.

Having a baby was very hard at first. Especially for me. Very little sleep, no more freedom. Now that he's older it's much better. We're a good team. My bf is the playful, fun, imaginative parent. I'm more of the teacher. Loving the 300 "why?" questions per day. My son has also taught me to be more loving in ways I never thought possible.

Favorite video game. That's tough. ToeJam & Earl, Metal Gear Solid, Skyrim, Fallout, BioShock, Grand Theft Auto, Call of Duty, Assassin's Creed, and I'm currently playing a lot of Destiny until all my November pre-orders are released.

 

[Mandy]

Welcome -- kids and cats and all other things fun? Yes, it can all be a trip.

I grew up in PA (southern central) and lived in central PA (harrisburg) for a number of years until I moved to MD a few years back. Are you near one of the major cities or in Pennsyltucky region?

My other kids, not as much, but my INTP son and I used to go watch stars when we'd go camping. One of the bad things about being in a city now is that the ambient light makes it harder to see things; where I grew up in the country, the nights were dark and I could see much more.

I'm glad you guys ran across MBTI and learned of the basic differences -- so it no longer is "my partner is rejecting me and/or being a jerk" but just "we're different, and so we can accommodate each other." When I was married, that knowledge helped me a lot too to work through some of the issues we were having. it's easier to capitalize on each other's strengths rather than getting upset all the time over feeling like your partner is withholding something.

I had a similar issue with the INFP I was dating for awhile... I was colder than he liked, and I felt judged sometimes. The mindmate/soulmate thing is a decent description; I do want a soulmate too, but I need to have someone I can share ideas with / can talk to for decent lengths of time. I wish that relationship had worked out.

I live in Northeastern Pennsylvania. Small coal town about 45 minutes West of Allentown. I consider it Pennsyltucky lol. Light pollution isn't much of a problem. I recently found out there's an Astronomy club and they have a dark sky spot like 5 minutes from my house. I can't wait to join!

I can't wait to have my son join me in star gazing. Right now my telescope is just a place for his hot wheels to drive on lol.

Now that I think about it more, MBTI probably did save our relationship.