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[Kev]

Hello everyone. My name is Kevin. I've taken the typology test many, many times over the years and have always had INTP as my result. I'm astounded by how accurate the description fits me. I'm a college student in my early twenties living in the western United States.

A few things that help define me:
I'm an INTP (duh, or I wouldn't be here)
I'm an atheist. (but not a jerk about it...unless someone hits my triggers)
I'm half German and generally feel that I would fit better in Europe than in the US (don't get me started on that)
I'm socially liberal and I could be called economically liberal (but with certain qualifications)
I grew up in a military home and never lived in one place very long

One of the things I am particularly interested in as an INTP is how other INTPs have dealt with romantic and sexual relationship issues. I don't know if this site has a section for that, or if it's even an allowable topic (most boards I'm on are basically anything goes, but I've known some to have stricter rules) I don't want to dump my crap on people, but I would find it helpful to hear how other people have dealt with the unique challanges faced by INTPs in this area of our lives, especially since we compose such a small portion of the population.

 

[Cognisant]

One of the things I am particularly interested in as an INTP is how other INTPs have dealt with romantic and sexual relationship issues.

Not well.

I don't want to dump my crap on people

The scat-happy members will be disappointed.

we compose such a small portion of the population.

Except in Australia.

 

[Kev]

I meant to qualify that with "in the US." I don't know why I didn't. If I had to guess the most common type in the US it would be an ESF?. I'm not really sure about the last letter, I might go look at some statistics and see how my guess fared.

 

[Jesse]

Kev don't worry about it, his just messing with you because there are just so much Aussies on this forum. Here in Aus I'm sure the percentage would be about the same. Oh, and hi

 

[The Gopher]

Cog is aussie and I am also auss err..... Australian. and ditto in the hi.

 

[Kev]

Ah, I was browsing earlier and your avatar caught my eye. Ryusaki is one of my favorite anime characters because he is a very strong INTP. I consider myself to be a strong INTP, but he is twice the INTP I am.

 

[Minuend]

^That's kinda like saying "I'm a strong Norwegian". Which is true in some context, but here it sounds rather misplaced.

<---- INTP, 23 years of age, never been in love, never been in a relationship. Not too much excitement there.

In any regard, welcome to the forum.

 

[Cavallier]

Looks like you'll fit right in around here. Except stop trying to be so easy to get along with. That's no fun at all.

As for the relationship stuff, there is a relationships sub-forum and some stuff in the psychology sub-forum. It seems to be a topic that comes up regularly.


I think this has been posted on this forum before by Adaire. It sums up my feelings nicely.

 

[nexion]

I'm an atheist. (but not a jerk about it...unless someone hits my triggers)

So then, what are your triggers?

I'm half German and generally feel that I would fit better in Europe than in the US (don't get me started on that)

Agreed.

I'm socially liberal and I could be called economically liberal (but with certain qualifications)

Agreed.

I grew up in a military home and never lived in one place very long

One of the things I am particularly interested in as an INTP is how other INTPs have dealt with romantic and sexual relationship issues. I don't know if this site has a section for that, or if it's even an allowable topic (most boards I'm on are basically anything goes, but I've known some to have stricter rules) I don't want to dump my crap on people, but I would find it helpful to hear how other people have dealt with the unique challanges faced by INTPs in this area of our lives, especially since we compose such a small portion of the population.

This an NP forum. Basically anything is allowed except intentional trolling, spamming, or blatant insults. The latter is because it increases the Fe content of the forum, of course.

As for your question... I have never pursued romantic or sexual relations, and likely never will. Not even because I necessarily don't desire them, but because I doubt my abilities in them so highly. Actually, I don't want a long-term romantic relationship, but that is what everyone else seems to want, so I gave up on them (before I started, of course). A few truly "deep" and "personal" friendships will suffice for me. Plus, I don't see a serious long-term romantic relationship as having many benefits for me. And I have much more important things to focus on than people in general. If someone took the initiative, though (I will never take the initiative towards a romantic relationship, period), then I would be utterly screwed.

Yep. That's my entirely useless answer to your question. "How do you deal with romantic relations?" "I don't." Good luck though.

 

[Kev]

INTP, 23 years of age, never been in love, never been in a relationship. Not too much excitement there.

I'm 23 as well. I've been in one relationship (a few weeks long), and I'm still kind of confused as to what our status was during that time, I don't know what she considered it. It's strange, I can sit at home alone for weeks (other than work) and neglect to call my friends, yet I still desire a relationship. I think the difference is that I don't want all the bullshit. I don't want to talk about the weather, or go to your graduation ceremony. I want a friend who I can have intellectual discussions with, go to cultural events, who will tell me when I'm wrong, and who will help keep the bed warm at night .

So then, what are your triggers?

-Illogical beliefs that actively harm other people.
-Blind obedience to authority, and urging others to do likewise.
-Prude, puritan moral rules derived from religion (i.e. leaving room for Jesus in your hugs)

As for your question... I have never pursued romantic or sexual relations, and likely never will. Not even because I necessarily don't desire them, but because I doubt my abilities in them so highly.

I doubt my abilities. The closest I ever came to being "a smooth operator" was as follows and entirely accidental(summarized):
I was gambling at a casino in the mountains, playing roulette (yes, I know there is no way to win, but I had been playing blackjack all night) and this girl, probably in her mid 20s sat down next to me.
me: Hey, hows your night going so far?
her: Good, thanks for asking, I was just playing poker at the midnight rose
me: any luck
her: not yet
me: Well here's to hoping both of us get lucky tonight.

The conversation was actually quite a bit longer than that, but that's the funny part. I said it without realizing the double entandre until it came out, and then I just went with it. She totally got it, and I guess I'm a pretty good looking tall guy, but I was still Christian back then and beholden to the churches idea of morality, and I ran out of chips anyway, so I wandered off. I'm still hoping to meet a sexy librarian or someone more like me personality-wise, so it'll actually be meaningful.

Anyways, thanks for the welcome everyone. I'm surprised to get such a hearty welcome on a forum for INTROVERTED intuitive thinking perceivers.

 

[nexion]

-Illogical beliefs that actively harm other people.
-Blind obedience to authority, and urging others to do likewise.
-Prude, puritan moral rules derived from religion (i.e. leaving room for Jesus in your hugs)

Well then, makes sense to me. I'm fine with whatever someone believes so long as it doesn't directly affect me, but then, I suppose... the beliefs themselves affect me indirectly.

Anyways, thanks for the welcome everyone. I'm surprised to get such a hearty welcome on a forum for INTROVERTED intuitive thinking perceivers.

Divorce yourself from colloquial definitions. They are not wholesome. Introversion can be better described as focus on internal world, with extroversion as focus on external world. The definitions do not imply outgoing or withdrawn, but these are the tendencies. It is important to not mix up the definitions and the implied of the definition. Or something like that.

But even still... that is not an entirely accurate comparison. This forum was made for discussion, so discussion will happen. Forums are not usually made so that no discourse is exchanged (at least, I have never seen one this way). But I can tell you with absolute certainty that I would not be "talking" this much in real life.

 

[Sosekopp]

Welcome, fellow socially and somewhat economically liberal atheist!

I desire but do not actively pursue romantic/sexual relationships, and I am doubtful as to whether I'll ever get into one. There are numerous factors at play here (e.g. social phobia and a high level of geekiness) that not necessarily are to my advantage. I'm only 16 years old, though, so hopefully there's still time to change that, though.

Until very recently I had a very close friend (possibly ENFJ) that I could have intellectually satisfying conversations (and go to cultural events) with. But we've grown a little apart now, he lives pretty far away and has gotten a social life where he lives now. :/

 

[EyeSeeCold]

Hello there.

And now I direct you to:
http://intpforum.com/forumdisplay.php?f=63