-overwhelmed by social anxiety, manages to sqeak out a lame "hi!! >w<;;"-

[Rune]

Seriously though, is it normal for INTPs to be consumed by social anxiety?

Ive long identified as an INFP and honestly, I know there are people that may want to fly off the handle about this, but I kinda think personality changes to a point where MBTI hardly matters when you try to forcefully set it in stone.
At the very least, Im way more INTPish and probably anyone that has the ill-fortune to know me would likely agree.

So Im realllly reallly trying to figure this out.. like how do I get along with other people. It feels mega-crippling..

but I definitely feel way more in my element here just by browsing like two threads.
I like what I see.

 

[Cognisant]

The problem with talking about social anxiety with socially awkward people is that it makes them self conscious and then they're too anxious to say anything

Welcome.

 

[Rune]

The problem with talking about social anxiety with socially awkward people is that it makes them self conscious and then they're too anxious to say anything

Welcome.

Have I alienated myself right from the start? Probably better this way tbh since now its right there in the open that Im pretty much socially aloof. :P

Maybe socially aloof is a better way to phrase it tbh! but ive just been feeling weirdly guilty about it? anyway.
Thank you for your welcome. ^^
It gave me inspiration and insight about my status with people and for that I am grateful as well!

 

[mikrokosmos]

Welcome to the forum!

From what I understand and have personally experienced, INTPs tend to be very socially awkward, but we're also one of the most open-minded and least judgmental types out there. The good thing about online interactions is we have plenty of time to think through what we'd like to say and make our thoughts at least semi-coherent.

I know from browsing the forum that we have several non-INTP members and those who don't necessarily agree with MBTI, so please don't feel uncomfortable posting here even if you're still figuring things out.

 

[ZenRaiden]

eat lots of garlic, 6 feet or more, smile and be nice,

anything that comes to your mind, put it at the end of the list of things to talk about if at all.

Cross out all the crazy shit.

Don't question authority, people do not like it. I mean they will beat the shit out of you if you do literally.
Aaand if you are a girl, just learn to stand up for yourself.

else depends on situations.

With most people what you see is what you get, with some not.

Prepare to be disappointed.

If you really care about something don't expect others to do that for you.

 

[Rook]

throw the dice, those that never play ever bored shall be

 

[ZenRaiden]

I was once sick for 2 weeks and honest to god, I have not spoken to anyone in that time much. Best 2 weeks in my life.
All I did was lay in bed and do literally nothing apart from reading a old book from time to time.

I have never gotten bored outside of social situations as much as in social situations.

Most people are about as fun as a slot machine in Vegas Casino.

No insult, but lets be honest.

I get tired of people who need to be social.

They are just social version of their boring selves. It does not really make a difference.

IF you are bored alone you are going to be bored with other people as well.

TO me its seems lots of people who interact just for sake of interaction are the type of people who simply want others to entertain them.

You know like in that Nirvana song.

 

[Daddy]

On here, yes.

Out of all people that type INTP, probably not majority, but perhaps statistically more significant versus other types.

 

[CyranoTheLeprechaun]

The problem with talking about social anxiety with socially awkward people is that it makes them self conscious and then they're too anxious to say anything

Welcome

Couldn't have said it any better
@Cognisant The accuracy dude.

I saw this in my feed and immediately wanted to respond to it but tbh I couldn't string up a descent sentence(s). In my mind I knew exactly what I wanted to say but typing it out was a different story.

Back to the matter at hand, social anxiety is probably one of the biggest challenges I face on a daily basis (I also identify as an INTP). For example, I'm in my 2nd year of university. Consequently, I'm expected to attend lectures and other public events as well (I'm from a country where Covid restrictions have long been removed). However, true to my socially awkward weirdo self, I decided to actively forgo all of these stuff and instead just stay in my dorm room with a ton of books and other reading materials (only 90% are textbooksokay, maybe 60%). I complete my assignments in my room and only attend classes in the event of a test or exam. (Just to clear the air, I'm actually doing pretty well grades-wise-ish)
The upside to all the ditching is that I have alot of time to actively pursue my ever-changing interests. The downside is that my future Jon prospects are questionable as I haven't been establishing the necessary networks whatsoever. Hence, I have proactively decided to pursue academia instead of going out into the workforce.

To answer your question, based on personal experiences as an INTP, I would say it is quite normal for us to face social anxiety. I guess it all stems from the fact that we're all misunderstood by the world at large.