Rant/Advice Request : Lack of Confidence Stemmed by Poor Performance

[pjoa09]

I have been out of INTP discussions for a while when I got absolutely obsessed about buying a 1992 BMW 318i E30 and then I realized that I wasn't happy with it and sold it for a tad bit more than what I bought it for. Now I regret it like shit but I will be getting another one and maybe even buy this one back.

To the point, I have been having a mental debate over my career and hobby choices. Most of this has been fueled by elders in my family business being dissatisfied with how I perform, their suggestion to discuss a different career path, and my reluctance to engage with most work given.

The solution should be obvious, go to university and find a new career.

However, through my observations of other lives of those who have gone to university and those who didn't, I haven't noticed that university graduates enjoyed any more success. Most even claim that it was just for 'the experience'.
And despite their extravagant majors, they always end up in the family business.

All of those who carry the same blood as mine are very interested in the work. I stand out as a sore thumb. Being distant, laidback, and bored. Almost made me doubt my actual origins. I am slightly more mechanically inclined and "stranger-ish". Which makes me think I'd never succeed in such a line of work.

Yet, in every activity, I have always performed below expectations. This includes activities that I enjoy. I always have complaints. So in the end, I always feel like shit.

My interests have never lived long. One or two years at best and it fades out very quickly and I find myself obsessing over something else. It's never stable or constant. So it's quite hard to choose which one. Besides, currently it's all about E30s and racing. They are never profitable, at least to the extent of my family's business. It's just a very expensive hobby that breaks banks.

So far, I have decided to stick because regardless of what I am interested in, I always perform like shit and what is better than surviving in the umbrella of your own blood. But now I am really wondering if I share that same ability.

If I had the lottery sperm, I would've lived as a hermit and spent all of it buying a hanger, a bed, a couple computers, and a lot of cars. But then again I might get interested in something else.

Any advice? Should I just wing it, do what I feel like, and burn some money?

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Have you looked into becoming an industrial electrician than engaging in further specialization? It will provide a good income and mental stimulation.

If you're going to go to university, under no circumstances should you studying something that will not increase your ability to gain employment. Degrees in sociology, psychology, philosophy, business, economics, classics, etc. will not result in greater employment prospects no matter how interesting they may be. You will be burdened with a large amount of debt and no ability to pay it off. Like any investment, the motivation for the investment is the anticipation of rent. If there is no anticipated rent, don't invest.

Degrees to look into: finance, mathematics (focus on statistics), engineering (all but biomedical), science (chemistry).

Edit: If you feel like shit and are unhappy, have you tried diet and exercise to mitigate this?

A double major in engineering and project management would be worth while.

 

[pjoa09]

Have you looked into becoming an industrial electrician than engaging in further specialization? It will provide a good income and mental stimulation.

If you're going to go to university, under no circumstances should you studying something that will not increase your ability to gain employment. Degrees in sociology, psychology, philosophy, business, economics, classics, etc. will not result in greater employment prospects no matter how interesting they may be. You will be burdened with a large amount of debt and no ability to pay it off. Like any investment, the motivation for the investment is the anticipation of rent. If there is no anticipated rent, don't invest.

Degrees to look into: finance, mathematics (focus on statistics), engineering (all but biomedical), science (chemistry).

Edit: If you feel like shit and are unhappy, have you tried diet and exercise to mitigate this?

A double major in engineering and project management would be worth while.

I can still get income right now. The pain is that nothing is so enjoyable as to I'd be stuck to it and be the best at it. It was easy to say that I'll find what I want to do but when it comes down to it, I am not so sure anymore.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

I can still get income right now. The pain is that nothing is so enjoyable as to I'd be stuck to it and be the best at it. It was easy to say that I'll find what I want to do but when it comes down to it, I am not so sure anymore.

Have you considered taking up new hobbies or joining clubs in the time being?

Find something you enjoy and meet new people.

 

[Beholder]

Maybe you can find something to do in the family business that suits your particular skills better than whatever you're doing now? Some kind of niche, like finding little inefficiencies in the way the business is run and smoothing them out, I don't know, whatever you have an eye for.

If you want to go to university, maybe study something that will help get you into that niche in your family business. From the impression I'm getting, it sounds like you're better off staying in the family business. But, I really don't know anything, that's just my opinion.

 

[pjoa09]

@ProxyAmenRa I guess I could just dig my nails into all my hobbies and see which one drags me into it.

@Beholder I haven't really found anything in the past two years that has proved to be entertaining in the ways that I could obsess myself with it. Again, whenever I get work I treat it as work and get bored quickly, whereas when I am doing something for fun, I keep at it. It's hard to say my work is any fun as its very ESTJ/ESFJ.

 

[MEDICaustik]

Have you looked into becoming an industrial electrician than engaging in further specialization? It will provide a good income and mental stimulation.

If you're going to go to university, under no circumstances should you studying something that will not increase your ability to gain employment. Degrees in sociology, psychology, philosophy, business, economics, classics, etc. will not result in greater employment prospects no matter how interesting they may be. You will be burdened with a large amount of debt and no ability to pay it off. Like any investment, the motivation for the investment is the anticipation of rent. If there is no anticipated rent, don't invest.

Degrees to look into: finance, mathematics (focus on statistics), engineering (all but biomedical), science (chemistry).

Edit: If you feel like shit and are unhappy, have you tried diet and exercise to mitigate this?

A double major in engineering and project management would be worth while.

Why not biomedical engineering? I've been considering that recently.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Why not biomedical engineering? I've been considering that recently.

The payback period is greater than the other strands of engineering.

Even under any engineering strands you still need to specialize. That is what I am currently doing.

 

[pjoa09]

biomedical engineering sounds painful.

I sort of am considering mechanical engineering nowadays. But can't be arsed.I am sure I'd bounce off the wall again and find myself doing what I am not supposed to do.
ADD?

Is that plausible? Although I was never diagnosed. I sometimes think I have ADD.

 

[Wayne]

If you're going to go to university, under no circumstances should you studying something that will not increase your ability to gain employment. Degrees in sociology, psychology, philosophy, business, economics, classics, etc. will not result in greater employment prospects no matter how interesting they may be. You will be burdened with a large amount of debt and no ability to pay it off. Like any investment, the motivation for the investment is the anticipation of rent. If there is no anticipated rent, don't invest.

There is no idea to educate yourself unless it is something that you are really intrested in.

At least thats the case for me.