reverse maturation

[samjonathan]

it seems increasingly apparent to me as i grow older and grow up that i used to be an extremely serious and quite a quiet child, which are generally seen to be "mature" traits, however as i've gotten older i've discovered the pleasure that can be derived from absurdity and silliness, while also becoming more in touch with other people and feelings and as a result i seem to be more immature (usually to NFs and SFJs) and arguably much less independent (especially in the eyes of my ISTJ father) than i used to be

somehow this seems to me to be the reverse of what most people do as they become older (the general process being the transition from fun, carefree and friendly to serious, quiet and independent) while i don't actually believe that i have become immature i do definitely seem to be a lot less mature (in some sense of the word) than when i was younger
in actual fact i think that i have become more emotionally mature and more of a rounded human being and only seem, paradoxically, more childish

tl;dr long story short do INTPs seem to become less mature with age while other types (the general majority) become more serious

i was wondering if this was a common INTP thing, if it was relatable to any of you on the forum, or if you think i may have misinterpreted the situation and what is actually going on here or just general discussion, or... like... you know... whatever

 

[cheese]

Development of auxiliary Ne? Which according to MBTI stuff happens around the 20s. Previously perhaps you were working mainly with Ti and Si, both introverted functions you'd be more comfortable with.

 

[samjonathan]

i think you're probably right, although maybe Ne and Fe, however MBTI might want to check their shit out cos i'm only 17.. ahaha, i did live in a very Si household

 

[Moocow]

Actually I've noticed this in myself too. Sometimes it seems like I'm psychologically aging in reverse. I was way too serious, weary, and cranky as a child, but as I age my imagination seems to get more free and playful.

On an unrelated note, I thought the title of this thread was "reverse masturbation" and had to check again in confusion after reading to finally realize it isn't.

 

[EditorOne]

I recently discovered that some people think we're supposed to balance out all this T/F, I/E, S/N, P/J polarity as we mature and achieve some sort of balanced personality. That may be what's happening for you. For me, anything not INTP is still an act and since I'm 63, I don't see maturity of any sort in my future any time soon. If it hasn't happened yet, what are the odds?
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