What is WRONG with you guys?

[moody]

Well? What is it?

 

[Niclmaki]

What are you talking about? I’m perfect.

 

[caitlinwaters]

WeLl, FoR StArTeRs I lIKe tO WrItE lIkE tHiS

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[lightfire]

1 11k3 t0 wr1t3 l1k3 th15

 

[moody]

What are you talking about? I’m perfect.

I guess that answers that question!

I'm just curious as to what other people identify as the "problems" they may have as an individual. I over-explain far too much, and get too moody without notice.

 

[Cognisant]

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[Volstar]

The world is about pretending to be something. Not actually being that something.

 

[Black Rose]

you gingers are the worst

 

[ZenRaiden]

Nothing wrong with me but I can find a fault within person upon two seconds seeing them. I find fault with everyone. I am the only sane normal person on this planet.

 

[Minuend]

Would be easier making a list of what's right, I imagine

 

[Volstar]

i don't expect to be accepted by most people, and i'm fine with that.
most of the time people i know invite me for drinks and it's me the one who doesn't want to meet them because several practical reasons like cba to move my ass, gasoline, coming back late, etc. eventually they stop messaging me. it's my problem, i accept the repercussions of my laziness.

my actual problem with people summarizes well in something that happened today.

i checked the instagram profile of an organization i wanted to apply for.
they had some photos of the latest additions to their team of workers; and i read stuff like, "i'm graduated in languages and i'm interested in modern art", "i'm a football player and i follow the italian underground punk scene". all of them looked very hipsterish and millenial. but i didn't expected anything different tbh.
moving forward i see they organize some exhibitions, so on and i see postmodern art that requires 0 understanding of the craft, long etc.
then i come to the conclusion that if i apply won't get the job. why is that? because i don't have the looks.
to make it easy for you to understand i dress like an isfj and my lack of fashion is being examined by infjs and esfps. and hear me out THIS PEOPLE DO KNOW ABOUT FASHION.

it's like applying to become a member of this band.
but i like them a lot you get me? probably you don't


i know what i'm talking about because i had a group of italian friends who were exactly like this and it took me like 2 months to be accepted in their group. reasons: they thought i was stupid and uncool af because i would wear adidas shorts with zara long sleeve shirts. or because they talked about how cool socializm was and would stop their zapata spree with facts that i would read from serac or smth XD, that's not cool at all.
but then one day they realized i was a better musician than all of them.
and a better artist than all of them.
only after that i was accepted as cool and they started treating me nicely, sharing their food with me and so on. i also cooked pasta for them and let them stay at night in my place, so they said i was cool.

so on topic: maybe sometimes i'm judgemental of people because i see in my history how they have been very judgemental of me without knowing anything about me. and i guess sometimes it's difficult to forget how things started with a person before it got better.

 

[Minuend]

^Do you have ADHD/ ADD?

 

[Volstar]

^Do you have ADHD/ ADD?

i don't believe in things like this but if u wanna know i went to a therapist like a year ago and she said i was a perfectly normal human

 

[Minuend]

i don't believe in things like this but if u wanna know i went to a therapist like a year ago and she said i was a perfectly normal human

Did she now?

 

[Volstar]

i don't believe in things like this but if u wanna know i went to a therapist like a year ago and she said i was a perfectly normal human

Did she now?

hey i'm just telling a story what's so add about it?

 

[Minuend]

hey i'm just telling a story what's so add about it?

Sorry, there's nothing add about it or your person or anything. I'm from a people of poor social skills, we can't control ourselves. Sorry.

 

[Volstar]

hey i'm just telling a story what's so add about it?

Sorry, there's nothing add about it or your person or anything. I'm from a people of poor social skills, we can't control ourselves. Sorry.

cool then. i'm not particularly skilled too

 

[Niclmaki]

Well, for a more serious answer, if I did see problems with myself I’d have already either decided it was a non-problem or fixed it if I decided it was a problem.

If you were to ask literally anyone but me, you’d get dozens of different answers of what is or isn’t a problem with me.

Too much subjective judgement allowed. Maybe if you had asked weaknesses instead I’d have a few answers. But I wouldn’t share them. Never share your weaknesses with your enemies!

 

[ZenRaiden]

I think currenlty the most biggest issue of the month is I dont masturbate enough. I want to up my masturbating to three times a day, but I kind of dont have the fun I used to have. Its a little lame taking these stupid pills. I mean I dont need them, but the down side is I cant sleep much if I dont take em.

I also think that I dont have the looks of Brad Pitt, and that is real drawback.
I also have terrible memory. I literally forget what happend yesterday. Its complete blank. I mean I dont even know what where why or who. I mean its kind of OK I am kind of ahistorical kind of guy anyway, I probably know less about my life than people who live around me.

I also think my kung fu is weak at this part of the year. It used to be better many moons ago, but at this point its just like whatever.

Also my abilities when it comes to surfing the internet are rather pathetic. I mean by now I should be able to surf the net far better, but I am still kind of 1st generation kind of guy doing the small waves, yet I had been hanging out on the internet beaches for decades.

Also I hate socializing and thats basically what humans are social animals, and so I kind of just hang out on retard places like here and write retard things. Real people are icky. No offense.

 

[Tenacity]

1. I sometimes like pineapple pizza - just not on margherita pizza because that takes away from the flavors of fresh basil and mozz
2. I'm not a guy, so a big chunk of society still thinks of me as a lesser human being, and now I strive to change that opinion because I live in America where our rights are taken for granted compared to some other countries and it doesn't make sense for me not to do my best in life to stand up for the sake of young girls who need someone to look up to
3. I'm a minority in America and Trump is our current president, so the news has been depressing for me to say the least and since I lack connection with anyone in real life, and the internet is saturated with Trump tweets and more news surrounding the controversies of those, I search for hope well, here, I guess!
4. I'm sad more often than I want and need to be and then listen to "emo" music and rock variants to cope
5. I think I can defy the odds and have a positive impact on the world before I die
6. I conform to too many societal expectations like prioritizing my appearance and while I'm working to de-emphasize that, I will most likely end up going through life upholding those standards and trying to live up to ultra high standards across several dimensions
7. I have guilt when I consume meat yet can't fully become vegan
8. I unintentionally end up denying myself of self-love, possibly in the attempt to maximize my ability to think in-depth
9. There is a cricket behind the headboard of my bed and now I won't be able to sleep at all because I'm afraid it will crawl on my head. Yay!

There is a lot wrong with me, but I guess that is why I am a perfectly imperfect human being.

 

[mr_darker]

I don't really know, a lotta times when tired, or high, I REALLY begin to question myself, like am I fuckin' nuts? Idk, it's happened often enough that I think about it sober, like the other me is screaming wake up you're a nutjob, and then im sober and like lol, i was so high. But now im like what if i really am, how would i know D: Can I find out or is that what makes me nuts, not being able to learn?

I AM socially different/impaired due to severe social anxiety disorder and its effects on my life. Like I took a few hits off a vape pen and was at the bar with my best friend and one of his friends shows up buys us all shots and is like "what's up with him? He's weirder (later said quieter) than usual)

Do have some flaws where I'll do/say illogical things from time to time but not sure if that constitutes being a nut.

Don't really "fit-in" with most, which would support nut-theory, BUT a lot of people aren't really logical, or interested in things like computer science or what-not, like most people I know are far more likely to know how to cook meth than do an algebra problem, nevermind calculus or linear algebra, some even failed the weenieHutJR math class "math foundations".

Have a tendency to live in my head (my theory is it's a result of having so little social interaction growing up) and sorta space out, appearing absent minded externally (because im literally absent mentally), but in general just dumb to others. Slap on depressive episodes of decompensation and life issues and you literally get a boss telling you you're on the spectrum or something, which, idk maybe that supports the nut theory?

I don't really enjoy wondering :P I'd say nut theory is probably false, but, nut theory says my judgement is shit so my judgement doesn't really disprove nut-theory at all. I hope I find de wae some day lol. It's kinda like a "are we in a simulation" question, how can you even test it?

 

[moody]

eventually they stop messaging me. it's my problem, i accept the repercussions of my laziness.

I get that. Similar things have happen to me a lot too. I mean, if you don’t have to motivation to do those things, why do them?

then i come to the conclusion that if i apply won't get the job. why is that? because i don't have the looks.

I feel this. It’s what stops me from perusing a lot of things. I feel like I’d be a fraud. Then I realize that people less qualified doing fine at that, and I feel even worse. It also makes me have high standards of quality, which makes me angry at other people when they're being mediocre at their jobs.

or because they talked about how cool socializm was and would stop their zapata spree with facts that i would read from serac or smth XD, that's not cool at all.

No one likes it when you challenge their not-very-thought-out opinions. It’s what happens when you confuse your opinions for beliefs. It's very common in small-towns. This happens a lot with political stuff, which is why people are so unreasonable and defense if you say anything that may contradict what they think. It’s literally a religion for them.

but then one day they realized i was a better musician than all of them.
and a better artist than all of them.
only after that i was accepted as cool and they started treating me nicely, sharing their food with me and so on. i also cooked pasta for them and let them stay at night in my place, so they said i was cool.

I feel this SO BAD. This kind of thing has happened to me a lot. In sociology it’s put like this: the amount of work you put on something is divided in 2 ways:

1. How much you’re actually working on the thing.
2. How much your working on making yourself look like you’re working

When you're only thinking about the quality of your work and not doing anything to work on selling yourself, you will be dismissed by most people. It won't always happen, but unfortunately the majority of people will judge you based on what they think they see, not on what's actually there.


I’m also a musician. So many mediocre people think they know what a good musician is, and if I don’t fit into that narrow-minded box, I’m dismissed. When I was younger, I moved a lot, each year place small towns that didn’t have many professional musicians/groups, nor did the schools support music programs.
I knew a lot more than any other student, and I played a lot better too. I never said or did anything that put someone down, but I felt a general opinion from others that I was stuck up, and that I thought I was better than I was. All because I was in a youth orchestra, and would get excited talking about classical music. I was put down a lot for simple things like asking the teachers to go over tuning. The less experiance and knowledge people have, the more defense they get over what they think they know. They judge purely by picking out things they already know, instead of actually viewing the work you’ve done for what it is. It’s not just in art, but in all professions as well. It created some toxic enviornemts for me when I was younger, and it made me really self-conscious about myself. I eventually stopped talking about my activity in music whatsoever, until I was able to audition to universities and got out of those small-minded places. I don't know how I lasted so long.

maybe sometimes i'm judgemental of people because i see in my history how they have been very judgemental of me without knowing anything about me. and i guess sometimes it's difficult to forget how things started with a person before it got better.

I can fall into this trap as well.

 

[moody]

Too much subjective judgement allowed. Maybe if you had asked weaknesses instead I’d have a few answers. But I wouldn’t share them. Never share your weaknesses with your enemies!

I have learned this the hard way.

 

[moody]

1. I sometimes like pineapple pizza - just not on margherita pizza because that takes away from the flavors of fresh basil and mozz
2. I'm not a guy, so a big chunk of society still thinks of me as a lesser human being, and now I strive to change that opinion because I live in America where our rights are taken for granted compared to some other countries and it doesn't make sense for me not to do my best in life to stand up for the sake of young girls who need someone to look up to
3. I'm a minority in America and Trump is our current president, so the news has been depressing for me to say the least and since I lack connection with anyone in real life, and the internet is saturated with Trump tweets and more news surrounding the controversies of those, I search for hope well, here, I guess!
4. I'm sad more often than I want and need to be and then listen to "emo" music and rock variants to cope
5. I think I can defy the odds and have a positive impact on the world before I die
6. I conform to too many societal expectations like prioritizing my appearance and while I'm working to de-emphasize that, I will most likely end up going through life upholding those standards and trying to live up to ultra high standards across several dimensions
7. I have guilt when I consume meat yet can't fully become vegan
8. I unintentionally end up denying myself of self-love, possibly in the attempt to maximize my ability to think in-depth
9. There is a cricket behind the headboard of my bed and now I won't be able to sleep at all because I'm afraid it will crawl on my head. Yay!

There is a lot wrong with me, but I guess that is why I am a perfectly imperfect human being.

1. Your taste buds are your taste buds.
2. That's their problem, honey. Knowing that wont change the way you're treated unfortunately, but hopefully it will help you separate what they project onto you versus what you know about yourself to be true.
3. There are people from my high school whose families have been deported. My best friend had policemen going around their neighborhood and knocking on doors, asking to see proof of residency. It's horrific that those things are actually happening, so I can really relate to you. I honestly felt like I was in the twilight zone for an entire week after Trump was elected.
4. It's important to recognize your feelings of sadness, but feeling sad does not indicate that there's anything wrong with you. People cant allow themselves to feel sad enough, because they're too afraid of that emotion. Just think of Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh--he was always sad, but everyone still accepted him. That was just Eeyore, and there was nothing wrong with it.
5. You can! It may not be recognized until after you die, but you affect those around in in insurmountable ways every day. The butterfly effect of being a good person may save lives.
6. This one made me really sad...Don't be too hard on yourself. You are human.
7. One thing at a time. It's not something you can cold cold turkey on. Take into account the other things you have to do in your life, and cut yourself a break. That's coming from a vegan. It was easy for me, because I wasn't raised eating meat. If you find yourself in a safe space to "try transitioning," a better approach wouldn't be to give up anything, but to start looking and trying vegan-friendly meals. You will learn how to make a diet for yourself that you enjoy and sustains you, and eventually you won't really want meat. But it's a very slow process. In the meantime, don't beat yourself up for what you eat. It is okay to eat meat! That is coming from a vegan with strong opinions! So be kind to yourself!
8. The two aren't mutually exclusive. In the end, denying yourself self-love will warp your ability to think rationally, because you'll lack the perspective of an individual. You matter as much as the people you most care about. You deserve to matter too. I really relate to this point your made, so you're not alone. You deserve your own consideration, but you don't have to sacrifice your abstract thinking to give yourself that. I'm a strong believer of ethics being situational-driven. There will never be one rule that covers them all. If you have a strong sense of self and moral compass, you are empowered to act with compassion and fairness to yourself and to others.
9. I always must find and get rid of the bugs before I sleep....it's a problem...

 

[moody]

I AM socially different/impaired due to severe social anxiety disorder and its effects on my life.

Hang in there.

Do have some flaws where I'll do/say illogical things from time to time but not sure if that constitutes being a nut.

Me too. I get asked if I'm high from time to time. I am not.

Don't really "fit-in" with most, which would support nut-theory, BUT a lot of people aren't really logical, or interested in things like computer science or what-not

That's okay. You don't have to enjoy the company of other people just because you think you should.

Have a tendency to live in my head (my theory is it's a result of having so little social interaction growing up) and sorta space out, appearing absent minded externally (because im literally absent mentally), but in general just dumb to others. Slap on depressive episodes of decompensation and life issues and you literally get a boss telling you you're on the spectrum or something, which, idk maybe that supports the nut theory?

I can relate a bit. You know yourself better then they do. I don't worry about telling you that, because it doesn't seem as though you're disillusioned, and you express understanding of the way other people perceive you.

don't really enjoy wondering :P I'd say nut theory is probably false, but, nut theory says my judgement is shit so my judgement doesn't really disprove nut-theory at all. I hope I find de wae some day lol. It's kinda like a "are we in a simulation" question, how can you even test it?

"nut" is not a diagnostic term. Don't try to categorize yourself, only think of ways you can re-route self-defeating habits to make your life more enjoyable.

 

[j_chrysostom]

I have very low self control/will power.

 

[Deleted member 1424]

The middle joint on my middle finger on my left hand is janky and it's really irritating.

I'm myopic; literally not figuratively.

 

[Gnurp]

Mostly health related stuff...

 

[moody]

Mostly health related stuff...

I feel you there.