You sure you didn't flip something around? Even if I were to agree with your premises, I would be led to precisely the opposite conclusion. Or perhaps you are trying to expand on his logic rather than give your own point of view. Having a complementary relationship would suggest higher liking.
In socionics the functions that are inverse of your tertiary and inferior are called vulnerable function and role function. For INTP this is Se and Fi (inverse of Si-Fe). The vulnerable function is like a super-blindspot, also called the Place of Least Resistance function. The role function is the most painful function in psyche. These functions comprise the Super-ego block and here is what is said about them:
"The Super-Ego functions are the source of much self-consciousness. When among strangers or critical onlookers, people tend to suddenly become aware of the possible inadequacy of their Super-Ego functions and often respond in one of two ways:
- demonstratively act through these functions to create an illusion of confidence
- demonstratively state their complete incompetency or rejection of these areas"
Reference:
http://www.wikisocion.org/en/index.php?title=Functions#Super-ego
The role function is also called "demon function" or "negative anima" because it was noticed long time ago that people feel inadequate in this area, especially if somebody else places focus on it. Reprimanding the person for being weak in this area is perceived as painful criticism. Having to deal with information that involves this function produces mental discomfort. For INTP this function is Fi. Reference:
http://personalitycafe.com/cognitiv...volving-eight-functions-type-beebe-model.html
ESFP's dominant functions are Se and Fi. These are their dominant cognitive lenses that they will orient by and express. But they correspond to the most ignored and painful element in INTP's psyche. Same it true vice versa - INTP's Ti and Ne correspond to most ignored and painful elements in ESFP psyche.
To the contrary the inferior function in socionics is called the suggestive or dual-seeking function. Together with mobilizing function it is part of Super-id element of psyche. Reference:
http://www.wikisocion.org/en/index.php?title=Functions#Super-id . Contrary to the role and vulnerable functions, presence of this function is said to create a "soothing psychological effect". But "If someone experiences a deficiency of it in his environment, he may attempt to supply it himself, but become soon exhausted". So essentially what happens is that activation of inferior is actually sought and needed, but we cannot provide it for ourselves, we become exhausted if we have to express it. So we seek out other people who have it as dominant or auxiliary and in their company we feel better. For INTPs this dual-seeking function is Fe, which is dominant for ENFJ and ESFJ.
Tl;dr version: ESC's claim would be true only if Super-ID and Super-Ego were equivalent (he calls them Conscious/Unconscious) but they are not equivalent. Super-ID block includes desired, pleasurable elements. Super-Ego block includes painful blindspot elements. From this follows that INTP will meet his or her own painful and ignored elements in the conscious of ESFP while he or she will meet desired elements in the conscious of ESFJ.
