Conflict and disagreement

[walfin]

Do you actively seek out conflict? Or does it just "come to you"? Either way, do you relish it or hate it?

Do you like it better when other people disagree or agree with you (assuming that the other person has logical reasons for agreeing and disagreeing)?

What about when the conflict has no real consequences but the other person is holding a view that seems to violate your core beliefs?

 

[Vrecknidj]

Do you actively seek out conflict? Or does it just "come to you"? Either way, do you relish it or hate it?

I almost never actively seek it out, unless I happen to have very good reason to believe that it's necessary (as often it is in a relationship--some stuff just has to get pulled out into the open and worked on). I neither relish nor hate it, though sometimes the timing is rather inconvenient.

Do you like it better when other people disagree or agree with you (assuming that the other person has logical reasons for agreeing and disagreeing)?

For me, it isn't the agreement or disagreement that I find pleasant or unpleasant, it's whether I learn anything from the exchange, whether the other person(s) learns anything from the exchange, and whether I find myself emotionally closer to the people with whom I'm having the exchange (though that's highly individual-dependent).

What about when the conflict has no real consequences but the other person is holding a view that seems to violate your core beliefs?

That's okay. Sometimes I hold views that violate others' core beliefs and I'm not going to change mine simply because of that--so, by reciprocation, I assume they aren't going to change their views simply because their views violate my beliefs.

Dave

 

[drumir93]

I don't necessarely wan't conflict, but when I see it around the corner I just can't help myself and I need to see it.
For instance, whenever I see citizen X made a post I check it out because I know it will pretty much be the exact opposit of what I think. Though thats more along the lines of inner conflict because I dont usually voice my opposition to things on this forum.
A great feeling though is when someone initially disagrees with me and through sense and a well spoken statement I persuade them over to my side.
And when the conflict doesn't matter, thats nice because I like to debate. If I can't change someones opinion maybe I'll atleast learn something.

 

[Zero]

Since my core beliefs are in the category of adaptability, truth and rationality it's rare that I come across someone (in rl) who violates my beliefs. There are people who offend me with their beliefs, but I'm not vocal about it. If I were a good, quick thinking speaker I would argue vocally (And probably be an ENTP).

I love discussion and debate. Not fights, if someone is stupid I will "agree to disagree". For someone to make themselves valid to me they have to have a valid argument with substance or experience.

It's natural for INTPs to like discussion, if not argument. Consider our counter parts; the ENTP- the one who argues for the sake of arguing and the INTJs who see patterns and make theories that they're stubborn about unless you can truly kink their armor (or they respect you). The INFP who is loyal to their creativity and originality. And the ISTP who just wants to get it done their own way and doesn't like any bullshit. An INTP would have a little of all those traits- to varying degrees we title: "individuality".

I like some sort of conflict. Shows that people are thinking with their own minds and that there will be changes (hopefully for the benefit of all "the greater good"). I hate it when people act lovey dovey with each other and are always getting and giving compliments like it's going out of style. It makes me think they have no mind. It's depressing. That said, I am an introvert and I would never start a vocal argument, because I'm not loud or precise or good with speaking. When I have a few people I can have a discussion with, I will passively argue and bounce my ideas off them.

Obviously, I don't seek out people or arguments. If I'm with people and we get on a topic it just happens.

 

[Ermine]

I like discussions, not arguments. Since many people don't distinguish between the two, I tend to avoid conflict unless I'm with a fellow "arguer" that doesn't take everything personally.

 

[Lobstrich]

I absolutely love discussions, even arguments (if people don't get to stubborn and ignorant, that is)
I usually say "Conflicts creates creationism" Which eventually will lead to new way of thinking, widening you horizon, learning new things. I don't start discussions just to start them, but the minute I find a reason to do it, and I see the opportunity. I will.