Strange mannerisms around complete strangers

[Irishpenguin]

Hey, so I've noticed there is this thing I do when I am completely by myself but have to talk to strangers, like for directions or instructions. Apparently my voice gets incredibly deeper when talking to strangers and am completely by myself (no friends or family around at all). An example would be just the other day I was registering for classes and getting directions from 3 people in an office, and all of a sudden I realize that I was talking in an incredibly low voice, much lower than usual, I honestly thought they were about to call me out on my weird voice, but I guess they just thought that was how I normally talk, since they didn't know me or anything. And it isn't weird really, I'm not muffled, and they way I talk isn't any different, it's just...deeper. And it is a stark contrast to how my voice goes since I kind of fall into that category of weird, quirky energetic friend who's voice kind of goes far too high when laughing or just saying dumb things

So I was wondering if anybody else has anything like this happen to them, any mannerisms at all would be interesting. Though it would be relieving to know anyone else who does the deep voice thing. My friends was saying it is extremely common for girls to make their voice go higher in pitch when with complete strangers, so maybe it is just the opposite for guys? Just a thought

 

[Words]

I also experience a voice change but I'm the opposite. My voice goes high and tired. Think the new movie, amazing spiderman, and his voice. I'm guessing it's because I'm doing something quite draining.

The only time my voice goes low is when I'm being stern and imperative, which I guess I also do with strangers. This one is perhaps related to being drained by and not wanting to put "feeling" tones on the voice.

 

[RedN]

I think everyone does the voice change or some variation of it. i hate my coworkers, shes like all trashy and cheapy then when shes saying hi to a new person shes like all cutesy and sweet UGH.

me, it depends... if its a cute guy id be at my best... if its a girl id be more aggressive and dominating, if its a mellow person id be way more aggressive, if its an aggro type then i become submissive. i just... adjust to the flow???

 

[Nocturne]

Hehe. How interesting. My voice usually goes a few tones higher when I'm speaking to strangers/people of the like. ... I tend to speak faster too. Hm.

 

[Irishpenguin]

I also experience a voice change but I'm the opposite. My voice goes high and tired. Think the new movie, amazing spiderman, and his voice. I'm guessing it's because I'm doing something quite draining.

The only time my voice goes low is when I'm being stern and imperative, which I guess I also do with strangers. This one is perhaps related to being drained by and not wanting to put "feeling" tones on the voice.

This might actually have something to do with it. Seeing as how I was asking them for something very practical (Directions to a specific building and what to do when I get there) I did have the mindset of "Find out what to do, and then do it" nothing really fun. Perhaps it is just my version of seriousness

I think everyone does the voice change or some variation of it. i hate my coworkers, shes like all trashy and cheapy then when shes saying hi to a new person shes like all cutesy and sweet UGH.

me, it depends... if its a cute guy id be at my best... if its a girl id be more aggressive and dominating, if its a mellow person id be way more aggressive, if its an aggro type then i become submissive. i just... adjust to the flow???

Ohhhhh yes, lol, I am quite familiar with the girls that cutesy up their voice all of a sudden with strangers and customers, although that always seems like much more of a blatant change in voice, like a conscience change that they are very aware of and are doing it to seem more appealing. but aye, I guess if it gets'em better tips at their job, well now that's just practical

Hehe. How interesting. My voice usually goes a few tones higher when I'm speaking to strangers/people of the like. ... I tend to speak faster too. Hm.

Hrmmm, that's interesting, thought do you think that is like a nervous or anxious thing? Like you are trying to get the conversation with as fast as possible with the stranger? Or is it just you simply talk slightly faster and lighter with strangers

 

[SLushhYYY]

Communicating with others is a skill, the more you do it the better you will be at it.

I also noticed a change in tone, be it higher or lower, I find that it deals with one's comfort among peers. Deeper voice indicates masculinity, confidence, and power, this I begin to feel when I choose the topic of discussion, or am very familiar with the topic brought up by others. While a higher voice for me indicates fear, randomness, and lack of confidence. Seeing as my voice gets high when I'm spontaneously questioned and answer without processing.

 

[cghhmnrtt]

I mumble, which oftentimes results in me being asked to repeat myself. My utterances lack inflection. My hands meet in front of my body to form piddling and undecipherable gestures. My head sometimes flinches. I look around the interlocutor, not at them. I take an undue amount of time to formulate a response to even the most simple questions, which seems to me to cause others to induce that I am an utter moron. I unconsciously take steps to maintain distance between me and the interlocutor when an attempt to close the gap is taken. I usually simper a few times throughout a conversation; otherwise, my face lacks expression.

 

[redbaron]

Ne is the dominant extroverted function of INTP, and I think that because we think a mile a minute we have a tendency to reply to things quickly after seeing a vague connection. Most people don't share this intuitive/thinking trait and it makes what we say seem a little crazy to most people (even other intuitive people), even though in our own heads it makes perfect sense.

I've found that the best way to be in a social situation is to absorb the information, think about it for a few seconds and find the best way of wording that connection in a way that other people can understand.

I think that INTP's have a tendency to speak or give their thoughts too quickly for others to understand or comprehend. If you can develop ways of effectively communicating your inner thoughts by allowing yourself time to digest things in social situations, people will start to respect and admire your intelligence and logical processes.

I apply similar rules to discussing important topics. If I know something is wrong but I can't explain why, I'll think about it until I can sum it up in one or two succinct sentences.

 

[intpz]

I speak clearer and louder with everyone except my family, as the family's not good with change, and some of them think that I'm a mental already, due to the different thinking. At least until I move out, I'm not showing any signs of change, I don't want to have problems with being called mental and talked about with various people, especially the people that they might know and that might be somewhat influential in the "system."

I think my voice actually goes higher, not lower. My voice is lower as it is.

I think everyone does the voice change or some variation of it. i hate my coworkers, shes like all trashy and cheapy then when shes saying hi to a new person shes like all cutesy and sweet UGH.

me, it depends... if its a cute guy id be at my best... if its a girl id be more aggressive and dominating, if its a mellow person id be way more aggressive, if its an aggro type then i become submissive. i just... adjust to the flow???

Are you the Dead Like Me girl?

 

[Roboman]

I've found that the best way to be in a social situation is to absorb the information, think about it for a few seconds and find the best way of wording that connection in a way that other people can understand.

Not a big issue one to one, but if it's a group chat and the conversation flows, the subjects move on etc. then you'll be late and out of context. Same problem, different route.

 

[redbaron]

Not a big issue one to one, but if it's a group chat and the conversation flows, the subjects move on etc. then you'll be late and out of context. Same problem, different route.

Haven't had that problem.

I'm talking the difference between blurting out what comes to your mind, and thinking for 2-3 seconds to say it concisely.

 

[m.love]

Yes, I experience this change too and I am usually surprised at the change. I notice it when I'm explaining an issue to someone and it is very serious as far as I'm concerned. So I concentrate, and slow down my breathing and my voice somehow follows. Pretty sure I take on some sort of Radio voice !​