Need Advice...

[Zeldon]

I am currently based in Central California. I need to get in contact with a INTJ. I am too neurotic to focus my thoughts properly, and badly need a partner. I do not have a scanner, and lack the resources to acquire one, so I will not be able to post a picture on line. I still want to reel one in from the internet, otherwise I need to locate the best candidate to communicate with. I could use a lead on how best to proceed this. Any help would be deeply appreciated. Thank you all for reading this post. This person I am referring to is kinda like me. I need a partner to steady myself. Once again... Thank you all for reading this post. All right scrap the "True Friend" I just need a partner that sounds like me.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

Hang around some libraries for awhile. Or go visit a convention.

 

[Trebuchet]

I can tell you from close association with a lot of INTJs, they do not like to be "reeled in" or treated as a "candidate." While they can be wise, they won't share their wisdom with you until you have become a very, very close friend. And they aren't really good shrinks, and they really hate feeling used. Even the slightest hint of betrayal will make them walk away forever. I don't know why you think an INTJ will be your salvation, but you need to know that you have to put a lot of work into a relationship with one.

Maybe you could look for a cognitive behavioral therapist? They should be able to help you get your thoughts together.

 

[Zeldon]

I can tell you from close association with a lot of INTJs, they do not like to be "reeled in" or treated as a "candidate." While they can be wise, they won't share their wisdom with you until you have become a very, very close friend. And they aren't really good shrinks, and they really hate feeling used. Even the slightest hint of betrayal will make them walk away forever. I don't know why you think an INTJ will be your salvation, but you need to know that you have to put a lot of work into a relationship with one.

Maybe you could look for a cognitive behavioral therapist? They should be able to help you get your thoughts together.

Maybe an INTJ going through a similar ordeal would be a useful contact. I need to find such a person.

 

[dark]

I had thought the exact same thing. That I would need to contact another ENTP, but that is not true, I don't need to meet another me. After meeting an INFJ I realized how much that form complimented my functions etc etc.

What you need is to find an ENFP, usually a happy extrovert. To find this person, just start discussing random things with people and if they keep up they are an N most likely, and transition quickly, this will make S types uncomfortable. Also formulate emotions to accommodate either population well-being or singular well-being. If they tend to be more towards singular, it is probably Fi they are using. Also you should be able to tell an Extroverted person from their movements and how they focus things, but sometimes it is hard, easiest way to tell is when they are walking, introverts tend to look to the ground. I am sure this will find an ENFP. At least it worked for me, since I was seriously thinking they were myths.

Your pedagogue relationship will be the best to understand who you are and to come to terms with your other functions, believe me it is very revealing, I have come to know about 4 INFJs and I enjoy speaking with each of them.

 

[SpaceYeti]

My best friend is an INTJ. Maybe I can hook you two up. Granted, he lives in Michigan, but if you're serious about it, you'd fly that distance. Of course, even assuming you two are compatible, he'll eventually tire of you and tell you to go back home. And that's if you're a chick. If you're a dude, you're effed.

 

[BigApplePi]

I am too neurotic to focus my thoughts properly, and badly need a partner.

You just admitted to neurosis. I've got it in print. I define that as some sort of emotional disturbance in conflict with reality.

How do you know what you want? Wanting is a desire. How do you know someone just like you can help you ... aside from giving you some satisfaction of identification?

You are a "J." J's are highly directed arent' they? Try staying here. There are plenty of "P"s here who are more open, less directed.