Lindsay1
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Can you be an INTP without being a nonconformist, liberal rebel?
I've spent a lot of time browsing through INTP forums, trying to see how well I match with the other INTPs out there. I fit many parts of the description very well: I am extremely quiet, unaware of my surrounding environment most of the time, really want things to make logical sense, and have a horrible tendency to procrastinate and be late for appointments. Not that the procrastination is really a problem in my opinion - I've found I often do my best work at 1 AM the day the essay is due. I usually score as high Ti and Ne on cognitive function tests (not as much when I'm in a doubtful mood and am trying to disprove my self-assessment). I (over)analyze everything (including myself), have often been called an "absentminded professor", am good with math and science, would much rather learn a physics concept or how to solve a math problem rather than memorize a bunch of useless names, feel somewhat detached and emotionless a lot of the time, and have a million and one interests. All in all, sounds pretty INTP, right?
I relate very well to most descriptions of INTP cognitive functions and thought processes. But I start wondering if maybe I'm wrong about my type when I see all the forum posts about being almost aggressively rebellious and nonconformist and hating everything conservative and/or religious. I don't think I'm much of a nonconformist. The truth is that I go back and forth a lot between giving in to peer pressure and actually doing what I believe in and like, and a lot of the time I pretend to agree with the majority even if I really don't. I always avoid telling people about my religion and politics, even when they're being discussed. I hate being in the spotlight, so I often just go along with everyone else. I may question things people say in my head a lot, but I rarely say anything out loud or act as if I disagree. And when I question things, it's always in a quietly-wondering-if-there's-another-side-to-the-issue way, rather than an I-don't-believe-in-your-authority-and-will-frankly-tell-you-so way. I ask questions about a lot of things quietly in my head, but without taking action. If I am a nonconformist thinker, I'm the type of nonconformist that doesn't really want to be nonconformist in action. I'm far more likely to give in to the crowd than I am to bravely stand out as an individual. I have a friend who is always doing things simply for the sake of being nonconformist, even when she doesn't actually like the nonconformist thing or think that it makes more sense. She cares more about being different from the majority than she does about what she actually likes and dislikes. If that's nonconformist, then I'm definitely more conformist. I think that, ideally, you should do what you believe is right and like what you want to like, whether that's nonconformist or conformist, not constantly try to be rebellious and reject things just because they're mainstream. That seems just as bad as liking things simply because they're mainstream - maybe worse, because you can can come across as contrary. (Sadly, I don't follow my own philosophy in real life because I'm too much of an embarrassed coward to actually admit it when I disagree with people.)
And then there's the "does not respect authority" thing. I don't really feel that way. I follow the rules, even when they don't make sense. But that doesn't mean I'm not grumbling about in my head. It's just that most of the time, rebelling against authority doesn't really do anything except get you in trouble, even when it's something really small. If I complain out loud about not being allowed to write on the back side of the paper for my school essay, people just roll their eyes and tell me I'm nitpicking. If I were to write on the back anyway, just to make a point, it would only result in me getting a worse grade and possibly the teacher getting a grudge against me. I'm definitely not rebellious. It's just not worth it. My idea of being rebellious is chewing gum in class. (And of course I'm the one who gets caught the one day I do it, never mind that everyone else in the class does it all the time). I'm a total goody two shoes. I'm not brave enough to be anything else.
And I'm not your standard aethiestic, hate-Christianity-with-a-passion INTP. I'm actually a more-or-less-devout Catholic. But there's the funny thing - I don't really see that particular aspect of my beliefs as being conformist or blindly-rule-following at all. I live in a very liberal area where many people seem to have no problem publicly bashing Catholics, Mormons, and conservatives. Telling people that I am Catholic or pro-life takes a lot of courage in the face of so much self-righteous opposition. The default, normal, conformist way to be around here is not religious, pro-life, and fixated on tradition, but rather nonreligious, pro-choice, and pro-change without ever stopping to consider whether the suggested change is truly the best and most logical change... And yet, the people who are those things and have never considered any other point of view still believe that they are nonconformists who think for themselves. It's funny - I often find that many of the people who complain all the time about how conservatives are so prejudiced against muslims, gay people, and atheists are actually really prejudiced themselves - only, in their case, it's against the Catholics, the Mormons, the pro-lifers, and conservatives in general. Just the other day someone I know casually stated, "I kind of hate Mormons" and everyone else in the room (except for me and the one Mormon) just laughed and smiled. If they had said that about Muslims, they would have probably gotten a detention. I hate the double standard.
If I question things, it's not usually in the direction most INTPs question things. I've been raised in a mostly liberal environment, which means I end up having to question whether everyone's liberal beliefs are right a lot more than whether everyone's conservative, supposedly "traditional" beliefs are right. Everyone complains about tradition, but I think the main tradition around here is to hate things just because they're labelled "traditional" without actually stopping to see if there might be more to it than that.
I have a lot of nonconformist beliefs that seem very traditional to most people, I guess. Am I traditional? I don't know. I don't think most of my "traditional" opinions derive from actually caring about tradition. I'm not Catholic just because my parents are, it actually makes the most sense to me. I'm not pro-life just because the church says so, but rather because I think that a person is a person no matter how small and the innocent embryo's right to live is far more important than someone's right to not have an inconvenient baby. Defining human life as beginning with conception, rather than at some vague point around three months into pregnancy or when the baby changes locations from the mother's womb to the outside world, makes the most sense to me. I think nothing is more important than life - you need to have the right to live before you can have any other kinds of rights - and that includes human life that's still microscopic in size, in my opinion. I'm certain I would still be pro-life even if I stopped being Catholic. Is this opinion really all tradition and religion?
So I guess what I'm saying is that I question things in my head but don't act as if I think any differently and I have some opinions labelled "traditional" but for non-tradition reasons. What do you think? Does being kind of conformist, religious, and not at all rebellious mean I'm probably not an INTP? Am I truly conformist or just unconfident? Am I really just an ISTJ or ISFJ in denial? (I actually typed myself as ISTJ the first time I took the MBTI, but later realized that I had interpreted many words and phrases to mean different things than the test makers meant.) Am I a real INTP in your opinion?
Thanks to anyone who bothered to read this over-long post!
I've spent a lot of time browsing through INTP forums, trying to see how well I match with the other INTPs out there. I fit many parts of the description very well: I am extremely quiet, unaware of my surrounding environment most of the time, really want things to make logical sense, and have a horrible tendency to procrastinate and be late for appointments. Not that the procrastination is really a problem in my opinion - I've found I often do my best work at 1 AM the day the essay is due. I usually score as high Ti and Ne on cognitive function tests (not as much when I'm in a doubtful mood and am trying to disprove my self-assessment). I (over)analyze everything (including myself), have often been called an "absentminded professor", am good with math and science, would much rather learn a physics concept or how to solve a math problem rather than memorize a bunch of useless names, feel somewhat detached and emotionless a lot of the time, and have a million and one interests. All in all, sounds pretty INTP, right?
I relate very well to most descriptions of INTP cognitive functions and thought processes. But I start wondering if maybe I'm wrong about my type when I see all the forum posts about being almost aggressively rebellious and nonconformist and hating everything conservative and/or religious. I don't think I'm much of a nonconformist. The truth is that I go back and forth a lot between giving in to peer pressure and actually doing what I believe in and like, and a lot of the time I pretend to agree with the majority even if I really don't. I always avoid telling people about my religion and politics, even when they're being discussed. I hate being in the spotlight, so I often just go along with everyone else. I may question things people say in my head a lot, but I rarely say anything out loud or act as if I disagree. And when I question things, it's always in a quietly-wondering-if-there's-another-side-to-the-issue way, rather than an I-don't-believe-in-your-authority-and-will-frankly-tell-you-so way. I ask questions about a lot of things quietly in my head, but without taking action. If I am a nonconformist thinker, I'm the type of nonconformist that doesn't really want to be nonconformist in action. I'm far more likely to give in to the crowd than I am to bravely stand out as an individual. I have a friend who is always doing things simply for the sake of being nonconformist, even when she doesn't actually like the nonconformist thing or think that it makes more sense. She cares more about being different from the majority than she does about what she actually likes and dislikes. If that's nonconformist, then I'm definitely more conformist. I think that, ideally, you should do what you believe is right and like what you want to like, whether that's nonconformist or conformist, not constantly try to be rebellious and reject things just because they're mainstream. That seems just as bad as liking things simply because they're mainstream - maybe worse, because you can can come across as contrary. (Sadly, I don't follow my own philosophy in real life because I'm too much of an embarrassed coward to actually admit it when I disagree with people.)
And then there's the "does not respect authority" thing. I don't really feel that way. I follow the rules, even when they don't make sense. But that doesn't mean I'm not grumbling about in my head. It's just that most of the time, rebelling against authority doesn't really do anything except get you in trouble, even when it's something really small. If I complain out loud about not being allowed to write on the back side of the paper for my school essay, people just roll their eyes and tell me I'm nitpicking. If I were to write on the back anyway, just to make a point, it would only result in me getting a worse grade and possibly the teacher getting a grudge against me. I'm definitely not rebellious. It's just not worth it. My idea of being rebellious is chewing gum in class. (And of course I'm the one who gets caught the one day I do it, never mind that everyone else in the class does it all the time). I'm a total goody two shoes. I'm not brave enough to be anything else.
And I'm not your standard aethiestic, hate-Christianity-with-a-passion INTP. I'm actually a more-or-less-devout Catholic. But there's the funny thing - I don't really see that particular aspect of my beliefs as being conformist or blindly-rule-following at all. I live in a very liberal area where many people seem to have no problem publicly bashing Catholics, Mormons, and conservatives. Telling people that I am Catholic or pro-life takes a lot of courage in the face of so much self-righteous opposition. The default, normal, conformist way to be around here is not religious, pro-life, and fixated on tradition, but rather nonreligious, pro-choice, and pro-change without ever stopping to consider whether the suggested change is truly the best and most logical change... And yet, the people who are those things and have never considered any other point of view still believe that they are nonconformists who think for themselves. It's funny - I often find that many of the people who complain all the time about how conservatives are so prejudiced against muslims, gay people, and atheists are actually really prejudiced themselves - only, in their case, it's against the Catholics, the Mormons, the pro-lifers, and conservatives in general. Just the other day someone I know casually stated, "I kind of hate Mormons" and everyone else in the room (except for me and the one Mormon) just laughed and smiled. If they had said that about Muslims, they would have probably gotten a detention. I hate the double standard.
If I question things, it's not usually in the direction most INTPs question things. I've been raised in a mostly liberal environment, which means I end up having to question whether everyone's liberal beliefs are right a lot more than whether everyone's conservative, supposedly "traditional" beliefs are right. Everyone complains about tradition, but I think the main tradition around here is to hate things just because they're labelled "traditional" without actually stopping to see if there might be more to it than that.
I have a lot of nonconformist beliefs that seem very traditional to most people, I guess. Am I traditional? I don't know. I don't think most of my "traditional" opinions derive from actually caring about tradition. I'm not Catholic just because my parents are, it actually makes the most sense to me. I'm not pro-life just because the church says so, but rather because I think that a person is a person no matter how small and the innocent embryo's right to live is far more important than someone's right to not have an inconvenient baby. Defining human life as beginning with conception, rather than at some vague point around three months into pregnancy or when the baby changes locations from the mother's womb to the outside world, makes the most sense to me. I think nothing is more important than life - you need to have the right to live before you can have any other kinds of rights - and that includes human life that's still microscopic in size, in my opinion. I'm certain I would still be pro-life even if I stopped being Catholic. Is this opinion really all tradition and religion?
So I guess what I'm saying is that I question things in my head but don't act as if I think any differently and I have some opinions labelled "traditional" but for non-tradition reasons. What do you think? Does being kind of conformist, religious, and not at all rebellious mean I'm probably not an INTP? Am I truly conformist or just unconfident? Am I really just an ISTJ or ISFJ in denial? (I actually typed myself as ISTJ the first time I took the MBTI, but later realized that I had interpreted many words and phrases to mean different things than the test makers meant.) Am I a real INTP in your opinion?
Thanks to anyone who bothered to read this over-long post!