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That's just a personal observation, one I learned as a kid and never forgot, though didn't always follow it as an adult. I've found that eating light improves the concentration. The best is when the stomach is empty but there's plenty of necessary energy available in the previous meals being digested in the intestine, i.e. the catabolic state.

Physiologically it makes sense, when in the anabolic state (after a full meal) the body has to concentrate fully on digesting. The liver goes into anabolic mode, the blood goes to the center, etc. The body has to put off repair until the catabolic because the anabolic takes so much energy and focus.

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Exactly the same for me. I can't help but to question. I thought I had escaped my thoughts a while ago, but they returned even deeper. I'm trying to get into a habit of not overthinking things. I feel that is a problem many people have that leads to depression, yet I can't help to be extra careful about the way I talk to others so I don't hurt their feelings. As you can see, I was attempting to get over this fear with that argument as a justification. I still think I am only making life worse for myself for being too considerate though. I suppose I could just do my best and if that's not good enough for everyone else, then I can't do anything to help it anyway.

Yeah, it is all subjective. Whatever you determine is what you want is what you should go for. That is my problem. I'm not sure what I should go for, that is why I do many of those type's of posts. I haven't been in love for a long time now, so my opinion on it is probably not as accurate as I make it seem. I was using purely what I know about neurochemicals to explain that. What I am really doing is trying to find the answers for myself.

Another thing to know is that your brain is a justifying machine. It wants to justify all of its primal functions like eating that next cookie or getting whatever you crave so that the rational part of your brain agrees. That part of your brain will keep telling you to think about it until you get it or you get rid of the craving somehow. This is how your brain keeps you addicted.

You might have to justify not thinking about it by perhaps reviewing this post or finding your own meaning of life.

I know that it's harder to think in that sort of state, so what I would do is just focus on your own life because after a while you'll realize you are just wasting your time thinking about it anyways. Regrets and self-pity only hurt yourself. You only have one life, so you deserve to be happy right now.

Ha. Yeah, it's actually been a while for me. Like 3 years since I haven't had time with college. I am a really extraverted thinker, so many of my arguements are made while writing them. I hope to enter my next relationship thinking like this. Maybe it is a matter of conditioning your subcouncious to really believe your logic. But I know because your Oxycontin receptors multiply in the pathway associated with that other person when you are with them and stuff so the pain might just be inevitable until the receptors go away or you stimulate a new pathway with a new person. Your body is craving the oxytocin is my best guess. The best way I could say is to just not think about it so you don't activate that neural pathway.

I thought that was pretty funny but I'm not sure how to respond. lol

I tried to address you on Cog's wall with @name, but it didn't work. So, yeah, I'll just notice you here. Not that it is of tremendous importance XD

You don't happen to be paranoid or a fruitcake (I trust). However in order to please oneself one should take care. Mocking = dissing people ... wars have started this way a la Los Angles street gangs and Afghani tribal revenge. Ask Salman Rushdie about this. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Satanic_Verses

I don't even know when it is to be honest.

Actually it was never anything personal and I never thought I was mocking anybody, least of all you. I just thought it was a good joke to combine randomness with a human activity where one would not normally introduce a super-technical thing. It was a joke and one guy bought into the joke.

It's just that maybe we should have a thread asking whether ALL jokes are not in a way offensive to SOMEone. Do jokes make light of serious stuff or are jokes themselves serious stuff if one takes things TOO seriously. On the other hand that's not fair as there are times when serious stuff SHOULD be taken seriously. Now I'm in a dilemma, lol. Maybe it's a judgment call.

All of that said even the most interesting/exciting/attractive man in the world is going to be rejected more often than not, so yeah adjust your expectations, being a man means you have to have very thick skin and when you do get treated unfairly, and you will, don't take it too hard, to be stoic about it.

Lol
Hey it happens to me.

So yes now I can answer your question, just try, try, try, try, and if that doesn't work keep trying, don't kid yourself there's no right way to ask someone out, you just have to bite the bullet and do it and the vast majority of the time you're not going to get anywhere, that's just how it is, it's a numbers game.

Of course there's things you can do to improve your chances, y'know look after yourself, dress well, use nice smelling deodorant, smile lots, try to be sure of yourself, have friends and be seen to have friends (women despise loners it seems) be involved in things, make a point of going out and doing something different at least once a week, learn to play an instrument or at very least have a collection of tasteful music.

If you're not particularly attractive it helps to be exciting & interesting.

Hold up are you dude or dudette?
I assumed the latter because of your writing style but people assume that about me too, and yeah, I'm a dude, I don't know how anyone could mix that up.

Hands you a valentines card and inside it says "Will you be my backup?"

Yeah I play. I got it last month and have done little else besides play it. I'm still a noob, and am only level 20. Nevertheless I'm becoming much better. My actual name is Vladimir, and so my LOL name is "Sir Vladimir." Add me if you play.

Yeah I had to keep editing it because of bugs with how the forum displays Wiki links

Herpderp. Thanks for letting me know. I'm not sure if i'll keep it, being associated with you and all ;D
I know you wouldn't take offence in that. You spam the forums too much to care about mere newbs as I. I do find the quote rather intriguing, tho it does come off somewhat high-standard. (due to the 'only')

Hello,
There was time a few years back, when the quote that is your signature was my own as well, for quite a long time... Just thought i would let you know... lol