Coworker

[SpaceYeti]

I don't have any coworker I'd like to have sex with, and I wouldn't if I did due to being married, but; what would you do if there were a sexy coworker you wanted to fuck? How would you make it happen?

 

[GodOfOrder]

I'd say do it or your fired.

 

[DrGregoryHouse]

I wouldn't. Though the thoughts themselves are wonderful yet terrifying to indulge in (too many sexually intoxicating coworkers/ colleagues over the years to count).

You say you are married. Stay in tune with yourself and your word by not allowing the fantasy/ illusion of the biochemistry of lust overpower the rational portion of your cerebral hemisphere (at least to the point that anything mutually physical happens). More or less and the level of self-contradiction will inevitably overwhelm any given earthly system. If you want a piece of candy ass and the hunger pangs threaten to overwhelm, invest in divorce first and then have at it.

Pheromones are real. Be aware. Snakes, upon detecting the scent of a receptive female 10 miles away, will immediately make a beeline for the female...only to be squashed by a 10 ton semi truck in the middle of the highway in their blind haste/ pheromone induced panic.

Many an individual in society has been crushed by the consequences of lust (some as far back as conception).

 

[Seed-Wad]

Why do you wanna know OP?

I really don't know, maybe chat her up a bit, drop some (clumsy) innuendo, scare her away

By the, has annyone read this book? http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/20995.The_Art_of_Seduction
Really insightful for me to understand a bit more the complexities of love. It is written as a seduction guide, but you can read beyond that if you're too good a person to manipulate.

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

If you deem the risk to be worth it, then just ask.

 

[EditorOne]

You should probably teach yourself to see the workplace as a place to work rather than a place to get laid. The penalties for unwanted sexual overtures can be quite draconian, and you don't even have to be the primary target if someone is building a case that supervisors are lax in stopping harassment. You'd just be collateral damage, another example that a supervisor is derelict.

 

[Rome96]

I'd ask her out on a date and take it from there... Is there another way of doing it that doesn't result in a sexual harassment lawsuit?

 

[SpaceYeti]

You say you are married. Stay in tune with yourself and your word by not allowing the fantasy/ illusion of the biochemistry of lust overpower the rational portion of your cerebral hemisphere (at least to the point that anything mutually physical happens).

I also said this wasn't the case for me. Mostly, joking with my roomie led me to wonder what people would say about the question I asked, and I told people it wasn't the case for me so that they'd know I wasn't looking for advice, just curious what they would do in this hypothetical situation.

 

[EditorOne]

You really can't have any social life in the work place. Social pleasantries and the exchange of words and glances can easily become bullets in the guns of subsequently disgruntled co-workers or hyper-vigilant human resource anal personalities. One of the disconcerting rules governing these encounters involves perceptions: It does not matter what one party intended by a comment, it matters what the other party perceived it to mean. Kind of like the guilt gets determined by whether the dullest knife in the drawer feels bad at a comment they may not actually understand. Remember a couple of years back there was widespread outrage in some circles because someone described an action taken by a cheap government as "niggardly?' Even worse for social interaction, where an individual can engage in social banter, then be offended by it, and finally announce it was unwanted.

It seems at times a plot to get full employment and workplace control for human relations martinets. Like your worst-nightmare third-grade teacher is now in charge of your office and has a quota of time-outs to adminster...

 

[Duxwing]

You really can't have any social life in the work place. Social pleasantries and the exchange of words and glances can easily become bullets in the guns of subsequently disgruntled co-workers or hyper-vigilant human resource anal personalities. One of the disconcerting rules governing these encounters involves perceptions: It does not matter what one party intended by a comment, it matters what the other party perceived it to mean. Kind of like the guilt gets determined by whether the dullest knife in the drawer feels bad at a comment they may not actually understand. Remember a couple of years back there was widespread outrage in some circles because someone described an action taken by a cheap government as "niggardly?' Even worse for social interaction, where an individual can engage in social banter, then be offended by it, and finally announce it was unwanted.

It seems at times a plot to get full employment and workplace control for human relations martinets. Like your worst-nightmare third-grade teacher is now in charge of your office and has a quota of time-outs to adminster...

Perhaps I'm just in denial of your decades' work experience, but you may just have been unlucky: my dad socializes at work all the time--even an occasional prank or two--and he's been employed at the same company for years despite lay-offs.

-Duxwing

 

[SpaceYeti]

I have to agree with Dux. As adults, the primary place we run into people outside of the home is at work, and we're forced to be around those people. I'm not going to say you'll necessarily enjoy their company, but if you do, there's nothing wrong with... well, enjoying their company. So long as it's mutual and nobody gets offended, what's the problem?

 

[redbaron]

Ask if she likes daggers.

 

[EditorOne]

"So long as it's mutual and nobody gets offended, what's the problem?"

The problem is vulnerability as things, including status and pay level, change and foster resentment, jealousy or any of a million other emotions we tend not to rely upon but other personality types do. What was fine for the past six years could suddenly become re-characterized as "something I had to put up with" by a co-worker if he/she finds out you're getting a coveted promotion or are making more money or seem to get all the good clients or assignments or whatever, and files a beef.

It may simply be I'm more aware because over a long career I saw people get caught up in this. And I've certainly seen a lot of people who deserved to be called out on their sexually overbearing demeanor, or however you want to characterize a man or woman who doesn't know when to stop. The real targets are people in positions of supervision, who can abuse their job power to get sexual favors; however, as noted, even if you're just the office joker whose schtick is slightly blue, you could be collateral damage if someone is trying to show a pattern of tolerated behavior to bring down your office manager or whatever.

Most who are INTP aren't going to be the office joker, though. An INTP is going to make an observation or comment and then find out someone is reacting to it emotionally. It's just one more arena to think first, speak second, or maybe don't speak at all.

That's all. Just a cautionary thread through the general discussion.

I'm happily married for the past 24 years to a woman who first supervised me, then was a colleague, then was working under my supervision, all at the same employer, so I know things really can work out. I just kind of feel obligated in some kind of quasi-principled way to mention all the possibilities. INTPs get blindsided by emotional reactions enough.

 

[Duxwing]

"So long as it's mutual and nobody gets offended, what's the problem?"

The problem is vulnerability as things, including status and pay level, change and foster resentment, jealousy or any of a million other emotions we tend not to rely upon but other personality types do. What was fine for the past six years could suddenly become re-characterized as "something I had to put up with" by a co-worker if he/she finds out you're getting a coveted promotion or are making more money or seem to get all the good clients or assignments or whatever, and files a beef.

It may simply be I'm more aware because over a long career I saw people get caught up in this. And I've certainly seen a lot of people who deserved to be called out on their sexually overbearing demeanor, or however you want to characterize a man or woman who doesn't know when to stop. The real targets are people in positions of supervision, who can abuse their job power to get sexual favors; however, as noted, even if you're just the office joker whose schtick is slightly blue, you could be collateral damage if someone is trying to show a pattern of tolerated behavior to bring down your office manager or whatever.

Most who are INTP aren't going to be the office joker, though. An INTP is going to make an observation or comment and then find out someone is reacting to it emotionally. It's just one more arena to think first, speak second, or maybe don't speak at all.

That's all. Just a cautionary thread through the general discussion.

I'm happily married for the past 24 years to a woman who first supervised me, then was a colleague, then was working under my supervision, all at the same employer, so I know things really can work out. I just kind of feel obligated in some kind of quasi-principled way to mention all the possibilities. INTPs get blindsided by emotional reactions enough.

Emotional reactions are like Terry Tate, Office Linebacker, except they don't strike for justice:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzToNo7A-94

-Duxwing