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- Aug 25, 2010
Is it really appropriate to designate Fe-auxiliary as a manipulative function or one that has to impose itself to exist? I think to see it this way is to focus on only what the negative manifestations can be. See we could do the same for Ti. I could say it is a self-serving function that expects the logical order it sees and creates to be accepted by others, even though it may not even make sense for others to do so. That's manipulative in its own way and all it takes is for me to come across one Ti-dom that acts this way in an unhealthy manner to reach these conclusions.
See what I mean? Fe and Te are just goal-seeking functions, it can involve just the self or others. If someone wants to see one or the other as manipulative, then fine, but I think their problem wouldn't be with the functions, but with life being one big complete process of manipulation since the moment of conception.
I agree, actually I think one of the reasons why xxFJs will mistype as xxxPs is because Fe will use external-harmony seeking to play "sub" instead of "dom" in the interpersonal & social situation. However, social awareness is definitely a persisting theme in Fe users; when playing "sub" or "beta", there is an awareness of the role one is playing, giving the other person a chance to "take the stage" in a group situation, for example. This can be used anywhere from being thoughtful and kind and unimposing on others, or taking charge and leading. It can also be used in a way that makes it obvious to others what's being done (like winking after a joke, "I'm letting you know this so you're in on it), or subtly and even covertly (which can be seen as manipulative at times).